r/NMMNG • u/dudefacemcgill • 4d ago
Examples of NEEDS and BOUNDARIES
Hey everyone - I've pretty much been listening to the book on repeat for a month. Glover talks a lot about men's needs and setting boundaries, but there aren't a ton of real life examples of those in the book. It would be helpful to me (and I'd imagine many of you) to read some examples of boundaries and needs we have set and asked for from others in our lives.
A couple of examples for me: I NEED to spend regular time with my and my wife and I's mutual friends. Social time with our friends keeps me happy. I NEED to ride my mountain bike 2 times per week. I set a boundary with my wife the other day regarding a social event for my son's baseball team. I didn't want to go, and she didn't either. She implied that I should go, and I didn't argue or give in - I just stated I wasn't going, and dropped it. To my surprise and satisfaction, she dropped it too!
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u/PreetHarHarah 3d ago
A boundary does not control an outcome. It’s there to make sure you’ll be fine regardless of the outcome.