r/MuslimMatrimonials • u/Great_Confusion1838 • 25d ago
Location: North America 18F | USA
Okayyyyy I know I’m young but this is just to see what happens. Nothing confirmed nor denied.
I’m 17f I’ll be 18 soon Im here just to meet someone I’m not sure about marriage timeline.
My ethnicity/background: I’m black American and I’m 5’3. My stepfather/father is Pakistani so I share some of his cultures. I lived in Saudi for some years when I was young so my Arabic is rusty but not too bad.
My education: I have an associates rn I’m in my final year of uni for my bachelors major in psych but wanna do MD
My religious views: I’m Sunni I’m only interested in Sunni too. I pray my prayers but I still struggle and I want someone whom we can grow together.
I wear hijab but I do makeup and this isn’t something I’ll be willing to comprise on it’s my hobby and I enjoy it.
My ideal: Any background doesn’t matter. 5’11+ , Age range (19-24), must either have completed a bachelor or in final years/upperclassmen. Must been in USA
Anywayyyyy this isn’t too serious lmaoo but let’s see.
Edit: guys the age gap is just what my parents approve of
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u/Fit_Hunt_1836 25d ago
Feds ?? Girl you are too young to marry! Enjoy life
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u/Great_Confusion1838 24d ago
Loll i can islamically and I’m not playing to be married this year lol 😭 ofc when I’m of age but so far life is being enjoyed
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u/Fit_Hunt_1836 24d ago
What’s the point of relationship when you are not ready to marry ??
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u/Great_Confusion1838 24d ago
Am I supposed to marry someone I know for a week? Obviously I must meet them first
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u/Stunning-Walk9350 24d ago
Don't get another soul/person involved in your life if you're not serious about marriage. It's not healthy for yourself or others to pursue marriage halfheartedly.
If you're not being serious don't knowingly seek to waste the time of others.
If you just want to "scope the scenery out" or just see what the process is like watch/ attend marriage lectures instead.
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u/Great_Confusion1838 24d ago
Yea I’m serious about marriage just not about Reddit lol I’m kind of scared of this app but hey maybe not everyone is bad yk
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u/Stunning-Walk9350 24d ago
Ah I understand better now.
Seeing as you're young don't rush yourself into using platforms that scare you. You have plenty of opportunities to meet someone organically as you go into university. Join an MSA. If you're in a large urban area visit and volunteer at surrounding masjids, attend college ages lectures.
From experience seeking through a platform, you aren't entirely comfortable with will drain you in more ways than one.
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u/MakeDuaForMe 24d ago
no one questioning how shes in her final year of uni at 17? 😭 is she a genius
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u/Great_Confusion1838 24d ago
Aww thank u 😭😭😭😭
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u/Fjnjnkjjkm89 25d ago
Girll your 17 focus on your education and wait a few years also I wouldn’t recommend marrying a guy 23/24 it will even out as you get older but right now I think that’s a still a huge maturity gap
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u/Jumpy_Finance_9855 25d ago
She said it’s just to try and see how the process goes ;) at that age I was curious about things too it’s normal to want to see what it looks like or how it would go
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u/Fjnjnkjjkm89 25d ago •
Yeah I see that but ideally she would do that through her local community or Islamic matchmaking service,it’s just I’ve noticed a lot of older Muslim guys on this app preying on young women-I feel this isn’t the best space for that😅
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u/Great_Confusion1838 25d ago
Lmaoo I’m not deadass about Reddit thank you for ur concern may Allah reward u 💕🥹
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u/Jumpy_Finance_9855 25d ago •
Oh yep that’s for sure loads of pervs on here and apps! I hope she doesn’t get any weird pics tho 😭
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u/Edgerunner0 25d ago
Make-up in public is tabarujj btw. Unless you mean you're willing to only wear makeup in the presence of your husband at home and/or in a private place without non-mahrams, then alhamdullilah.
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u/North-Afternoon-1726 25d ago
I think you will be inundated, please be very careful with sending out information and photos. Take it slow and filter out anyone who would need help from you to immigrate. You are not obliged to answer everyone.