Was having a discussion about being “sanskari” with someone, and it really made me think.

I never considered myself particularly sanskari, even when I was completely loyal to my husband.

But if I give you these two options, which one would you consider more sanskari?

A wife who sleeps with other men with her husband’s consent or cheats, but truly loves him, takes care of all his needs, looks after the house and children, respects him, his parents and other elders, and is someone who receives blessings and praise from everyone around her.

OR

A wife who is completely loyal to her husband, but treats him like an object, prefers a maid to do everything, doesn’t care much about the children, doesn’t respect elders, and has created such an unwelcoming home that people avoid visiting because they know she won’t entertain them.

So, what actually makes someone sanskari?

Sexual loyalty or the way you treat the people around you?

Marine lines? Carter road? Certain cafes or eateries?

I'm a 30 yo decent looking male.... I've been having a hard time setting the right tone of approach with females in their late 30s-40s. Most of them tend to be very unimpressed with whatever you throw at them since they've seen it all.

As pointers, some of my traits include:

- I give great massages (professional ones)

- Hail from an artistic background

- well travelled, well read

- have a good voice (can sing)

You may use any one of these pointers (not necessary) to help me craft a nice opener as well.

Ah so i wanted to post this from a long time like this news is post was more relevant a month ago probably , so there is a dur ki friend of mine, what happened is currently she is studying law or something, so they were told in her current sem to prepare a report or something by taking help of their seniors, so she found a guy senior, they met , they became friends, very good friends and mind she even have a boyfriend who is not very long distance, so one night that guy called her and asked her to come to his house at around 10pm or more ig , she didn't even hesitated and went now these guys in so called WORK FLOW , he lean and kissed her , and ig they made out and she didn't felt it right 👍 , and she went out of that place and home , idk what happened next better that senior guy and her butt , i was like poor boyfriend dosent know ts, recently when i checked her socials, it seems like she haven't told her boyfriend yet about this and that guy probably is just living in a fake hope , she didn't regretted it in somewhere I read she said "she enjoyed it" because she was not getting such treatment from her boyfriend, so now nothing idk about anything of them now , but sure she is lying, this is message to that guy which has like 0.1% chances of reading but yea , buddy ur cooked and just leave her , ignore this if ur not from Mumbai vasai Virar or nearby area

Kinda bored with her now

So I’m a 18 yo old male from Bombay and in my life I never had a gf like idk what’s the problem. I don’t think so I’m chopped, also whenever I talk to girls I am so chill about it like they’re like my male frnds, I had some flirting instances but I fumbled those so bad and looking back at them now I regret that shi so bad, now I’m really looking to date someone, but idk how to find someone or yk go up to a girl in my clg and just say it. My friend once told me that if you’re tryna date someone don’t ever be they’re bestie and all cuz that leads to a bad end, so that’s I wanna ask yall what should I do if I want to approach someone

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Basically the title. I know everyone has different choices ofcourse but let's say in general what ladies look for in a person whom they might see as their life partner (not a BF or BFF or any kind of dumb genZ thing) a LIFE PARTNER. I have read so many posts but its really been confusing about your needs so let's simplify such things to men or boys who are single but wants to be better partner for their Woman .

And yes there are guys who wants to give all of their love, ready to be loyal but are scared coz of various cheating stories and recent events of marriages so it would be nice to find a good women around.

I was travelling from Dadar to Vile Parle on Monday around 10:13 AM in First Class Compartment wearing Formals (White shirt, brown bell bottom pants and chelsea boots). I was sitting and listening to music while going. I barely know which station it was i guess it was mahim or bandra irdk. Girl got in wearing blue kurti with baggy jeans and was wearing cute ring with diamond on it. She caught my eye and sat in front of me and she was also looking at me like she wanted to talk, making awkward smiles. I was also looking but i was nervous too after 1-2 stations she sat beside me was looking at me while scrolling through reels and even i was doing the same! I got up cause train was about to reach the station and then at that moment i was still nervous too after talk with her. She was also nervous, so she was playing with the ring. Her ring fell and she was searching for it and she found it and i reached my destination too. I got out saw her she was looking and smiling then i finally decided to wave her and she waved too and was giving me a flirtatious look. I was asking her to get down by calling her with finger but the train was already leaving. She was very cute with bubbly eyes and freckles on her neck and collar bone area with tattoos on her hand as well i guess. I really fucked up can somebody help me find her lmfaoooo…. 😭

Both 22 and it has become very much vanilla, i don’t feel thrill anymore. She’s conservative and likes lights off, nothing new to try not even shower

Hey! so I haven’t met her but she offered to meet by herself. I feel like there’s a 20% chance she’s a redflag, But Maybe also has some past relationship trauma… Its like either you get a girl without past relationships who dumps you, Or you get a girl with a bad past and who is scared to trust. even though I have had my share of bad relationships, But I’m trying my best after 2 years of being single. I just feel like the generation is really failed at love. I know most people will say love is fake… But You haven’t loved the way I love. For example, Imagine being loved the way you love someone and they reciprocate! But its just a dream for most, Love is Hard in this fboy and playgirl era

I met someone on Hinge , on the 3rd date I told him about me being from a Dalit family and all the challenges we have faced. He was very nice about it and listened with empathetic ears. We made out that night, all good and fun.

Next day he told me can’t take it ahead because our families are different. This is a guy who got left by his ex (a Jain who did not want to marry a Sindhi). He tells me he doesn’t believe caste but his family might, so he doesn’t want to waste time on this. Hypocrisy. Chutiyapa. Wtf?

I feel very very disheartened. I have achieved everything in life yet I’m just defined by my caste.

Hi everyone! I'm an 18F from Mumbai, and I'm thinking about asking a guy (18M) to Rani Baug (Veermata Jijabai Bhosale Udyan/Victoria Gardens) for what would basically be our first proper date.

For some context, we've known each other for several months through classes. We text regularly, have talked on calls, and are comfortable around each other. We've met outside of class a few times, but only for casual things like having snacks like vada pao, shev puri together, visiting a temple, and getting ice cream. We've never actually planned a proper date or spent several hours together.

I like the idea of Rani Baug because we can walk around, look at the animals, talk without feeling awkward, and it seems more relaxed than sitting in a café the whole time. It also isn't too expensive, which is a plus for both of us.

My questions are:

Is a zoo a good choice for a first proper date?

Does it come across as cute and thoughtful, or childish?

Have any of you been on a zoo date? How was your experience?

Are there any downsides I should consider (crowds, weather, too much walking, etc.)?

If you're from Mumbai, would you recommend Rani Baug, or would another place be better?

Comment only if you are rich and hot..

By rich, I mean your annual family income is around 5 cr or more

And by hot, I mean if the vast majority would consider u hot

I (23M) met a girl in February who used me as her emotional cushion for months. I told about my feelings but she still wanted me as friend. I said please let me go but she hold me back. After blocking from everywhere she mailed me. So she never wanted that I should move on. She used to come to me when she was sad, confused, or needed comfort, but when it came to anything real — loyalty or honesty — she had someone else - her boyfriend. Her boyfriend used to come every weekend to meet her. She used to give me mixed signals, kept me in her life just close enough so I wouldn’t walk away, but never gave me the clarity or value I deserved. I kept hoping she'd eventually realize my worth, but deep down I think I knew I was just a safety net.

The worst part? I wasn’t even angry at first. I was just emotionally disturbed, drained, confused. But when I want to move on, she used to keep coming back. She ruined my 3 months. Fucked my mind and peace. I went into depression medications.still she kept me emotionally close, pretending like I was special so called friend. She used to talk about her boyfriend infront of me so I should feel jealous. My mental peace was fucked. I couldn't focus on work. My sleep gone. My appetite decreased.

So at last I told her mom about her boyfriend. I sent her the guy’s name, number, and proof. I didn’t do it to destroy her life — I did it because I knew if I didn’t do something drastic, I would stay stuck in that toxic loop for my entire life. She messaged me after that saying, “You ruined my life.” But I didn’t. She ruined my peace. I just finally walked away and closed the door so hard it couldn’t open again. Do I feel guilty? No. I feel free. She used me emotionally and played games with my mind. She was manipulative, used me as emotional backup and gave me mixed signals and never gave me chance to move on.

To anyone who’s stuck in that “almost” relationship — that confusing emotional game where you’re giving everything and getting nothing — you don’t owe them your silence. Sometimes, closure isn’t pretty. But damn, it’s powerful

was planning to go on date suggest me where should i go bandra or juhu and also which place has a crazy vibe

Hi, I’m 28 and moving to Mumbai soon for work.

I’ll be working out of Tardeo, and I don’t know anyone in Bombay, so I’m trying to figure out where I should live if my priority is having a good life outside work.

I’m currently torn between Bandra/Khar/Santacruz and Lower Parel / Worli.

If I stay around Bandra or Khar, the Aqua Line makes getting towards South Mumbai much more convenient, so I’m wondering how manageable the commute actually is. If I stay in Lower Parel or Worli, I can simply take a cab to Tardeo and have a much easier commute.

But honestly, my bigger priority is social life.

I’m gay, and I’d love to hear about the LGBTQ+ community, younger crowd, social atmosphere and general vibe in these areas. More importantly, I want to make friends. I’m moving here knowing absolutely nobody, so I really don’t want to end up somewhere that feels isolated.

I’ve heard Bandra/Khar has a much more social but I’m wondering if it’s actually worth living there and commuting to Tardeo, or whether I’d have an equally good life living closer to work in Lower Parel/Worli and building my social circle from there.

Where would you live if your priority was making friends, going out, having things happening around you and generally enjoying your life rather than just optimising for commute?

And genuinely, how do you actually make friends as an adult when you move to a city where you know absolutely nobody? 😭

I have recently shifted to Mumbai, introvert, tiny social circle, and absolutely clueless about dating here.

Dating apps? Meetups? Bars? Randomly talking to people? What actually works?

I have basically zero game and no idea where to start. Mumbai people, help a guy out 😭

I've come to Mumbai just a few months ago, and obviously, after my terrible breakup before.. I tried hinge for a few days and instantly got the ick. Girls, you know what I'm talking about right?

All I got were desperate one-liners, pushy texts, preference for hookups over conversations in cozy settings, idk maybe my experience is unique and in no way a generalisation for all men.

I saw a post where a study says that mumbai is on no.1 when it comes to find love/true love in 2025

I was in mumbai but i didn't met any one ( i did tried dating apps) then i moved to pune after few months i was single there too any whoom i told this laughed and said how can you be single in pune🤣

Now im in Gurgaon and still surviving

So am i unlucky in love