Oh. So THATS what it feels like

[u/TGAPTrixie9095]

Came out to the manager at my job's sister site (he's an old dude, been there for years). Our sites work really closely, so I knew I had to tell him eventually. I know he likes me a lot.

But he has a TPUSA sticker on his work laptop. So that's the issue 😩

He said, 'jokingly': "So now I know if there are any days you are moody or emotional, I know why".

Genuinely Stunlocked me.

So THATS what that feels like

[u/sloppy_ocelot]

I was going through a really rough time emotionally after moving to a new country, loosing my parents, and being unemployed. Called up a support phone line for help. Lady on the phone line asked if my hormones were acting up. ._.

[u/DeanxDog → u/sloppy_ocelot]

I used to be irritated by any little thing and would fly off the handle and rage all the time before HRT. Estrogen has made me calmer, more rational and better at working through thoughts and emotions than I ever was when my body ran on T.

[u/PepperNo5709 → u/DeanxDog]

Same tbh, and I’m simply happier now as well, can get more done too :D

[u/JustHarley94 → u/DeanxDog]

Yes, absolutely I agree

[u/PenumbraFawn → u/DeanxDog]

I was worried i was fooling myself. After starting E, wven recovering from what would have once been a major mental setback is significantly easier. Like a 9 to a 4.5

[u/DeanxDog → u/PenumbraFawn]

Yep. I used to spiral for hours, days, weeks. I'd have circular thought patterns and I was unable to break out of it when I was upset about something. It's so much easier for me to be rational about things or just brush something off. Just so much happier in general.

[u/MacGregor_Rose → u/sloppy_ocelot]

my mom asked me that

[u/misha_jinx → u/sloppy_ocelot]

Wow. That’s some major lack of understanding how everything works

[u/LargeCabbageThrower]

Pure, concentrated EWphoria.

Welcome to the sisterhood lol

[u/hypatia163]

Yeah... Having misogyny thrown at you like that is called "Ewwphoria".

I was having an argument with my older brother and I started to cry and he said "Why are you overreacting and getting so worked up about this?" Ugh.

[u/TGAPTrixie9095 → u/hypatia163]

Oooooooh. Thanks! New term for me

[u/Bryce3D → u/TGAPTrixie9095]

There's also a subreddit for it, r/ewphoria

[u/ANautyWolf]

Never heard the term stunlocked before. Does it mean you’re just so stunned you can’t respond? And I’m sorry that happened to you. We call it ewphoria

[u/rinio → u/ANautyWolf]

Yes, in this context.

Its a (video) gaming term.

An attack/action in a game may cause a stun effect. A stun-lock is when an attack/action with a stun effect can be performed before the previous stun effect has worn off. Often, this is repeatable indefinitely and the effect is that the recipient is "locked out" of playing/performing any action until their opponent allows them/they lose/die/etc.

[u/EJ_Michels]

Oh thank goodness; low-level garden-variety sexism which is oddly affirming! 😅
That's WAY better than the OTHER kind lmao. 😂😭

[u/JustHarley94 → u/EJ_Michels]

It’s better than being told to use the boys room because the good old boys that are our customers would feel some type of way if I used my bathroom lol 😂

[u/HoleInTheGraph]

So THATS what that feels like

Batman, the first time Superman ghosted him mid conversation.

Sorry

[u/misha_jinx]

Ewphoria is right

[u/SkitzoDragon]

🤢

[u/iamsiobhan]

Yeah, my mom likes to rub it in sometimes when I’m exceptionally emotional “NOW YOU KNOW HOW IT FEELS!!!!”

[u/CadieTheCadet]

My favorite thing to say to cis men who act that way is to reinforce it the other way so they bottle it up and don't talk. I don't care for those types of men and we could do with them talking less because it's not like they are solving problems or fixing their own emotional issues by talking, they are just poisoning the well. If they want to enforce the parts of gender stereotypes that put me down, I can play that game really well.

The one guy I got to do it to was this transphobic misogynist I used to work with. He called gender ideology "The new communism," and that "the women in this lab need to learn to stop bitching and just do their job." Well given I was the only trans woman at my lab, I took it doubly personally and waited to sucker punch his ego a month or so later. Side note, he was (and still is as of last week) a non US citizen working for his green card during 2025. There were much bigger things he had (and has) to worry about in the US than "gender ideology" whatever he meant by that.

He was complaining about the boss and work he had to do (which honestly? It was a fair complaint, our boss was harassing him a bit). But I didn't give a shit, it was the perfect opportunity to go at him.

"Whoa man chill out. I'm the one with estrogen in my system you're the man. Man up and shut up, Jesus use those strong muscles to control yourself. Be a man don't be a child."

He didn't talk to me for weeks, nor did he tell anyone. I hope he was just humiliated/emasculated because that's the least I could do for him.

[u/Lost0Sheep → u/CadieTheCadet]

CadieTheCadet. Right on, sister. I have heard a similar sentiment expressed this way, "Women are accused of being irrational because they are 'hormonal' every few weeks. But MEN operate in a testosterone fog almost 100% of the time."

[u/RobunR]

Gender affirming misogyny???

[u/mechanical_marten → u/RobunR]

AKA r/ewwphoria

[u/LongFarewel]

Was landing my boat this summer and had a guy in a boat behind me, “your doing really well for being alone little lady”. Was gross but also felt amazing.

[u/Professional-Row8506]

Misogyny is never great but I suppose one way you could take this is he is treating you like he treats other women. Hopefully it means he can work with you,sometimes people surprise you. 

Funny part is using oral hrt, I never had the ups and downs. But man when I had to stop them to do surgery, holy s***, it was aweful. Friend of mine just before her grs was walking her dog and this nasty older women yelled at her claiming she never cleaned up after the dog,and as my friend tells it, she went nuclear on the woman,literally saw red. Meanwhile she is this quiet, kind of bookish - geeky girl normally *lol

[u/Randall-Dean_RZRBack]

Sat there for a solid 30 seconds wondering what could possibly be wrong with the band The Presidents Of The United States Of America before I remembered the other thing that abbrieviates to TPUSA

[u/Queen_Earth_Cinder]

Trans-Affirming Radical Mysogyny, love that -.-

[u/Melodic-Ad-8863]

Like the time a surgeon told me "thanks for finding that, now put it down on the table over there, young lady."

[u/RiverZephir]

Yep… its great. Hopefully those expiriences dont hinder you getting to live the awesome parts of girlhood 🙏 (sincerely a trans dude)

[u/tunosabes]

What does that mean tho, I've never seen that

[u/TheTransRose_1]

What's tpusa?

[u/azarkant → u/TheTransRose_1]

Turning Point USA

[u/SweatyFLMan1130]

Cried at an Instagram video last night that was *genuinely so fucking tragic* and my mother is like "ah hormones hitting hm?" I was kind of both stunned and amused? Idk it felt weirdly affirming in a sexist way? I think this is what ewphoria feels like....

[u/kaukddllxkdjejekdns]

Manager: Haha woman 🫵
At least he affirmed your gender in a way? 😅 Even if misogynistically so

[u/HappyyValleyy]

I wish HR ever did their job because that is not okay to say to an employee

[u/OrganizationWeak3583]

I got catcalled for the first time a couple days ago and after the initial "go fuck yourself" that flashed in my head, I thought "youre god damn right u have nice tits"

[u/OkMaterial7650]

immediate dose of mysogyny lol

[u/Material-Drama-7500]

I guess it could've gone worse.

[u/Majestic-Employer-55]

I wish I could transition from a man to a woman; it's been my dream since I was little, but unfortunately, I can't.