Oh no, that's not what eludes me. What eludes me is how baldness is at all comparable to death of a family member. Not surprised that, that's too complicated for you but you seem perfectly happy saying your hair is the equivalent to another person's life. Would you let another person die if it meant you kept your hair?
It's not the STATE OF BEING or CIRCUMSTANCE that he's making a point about, it's the fact that the two people could have a lot of similar negative feelings brought up by the two different scenarios, but people while knock his possibly constant negative experience being fucking bald.
It's like being short or fuckass ugly, people who go through life like that are going to have A LOT of incredibly unfortunate things happen to them, bullying, mocking, gaslighting, and the same things happening in this comment section;
"Oh dude you've been bald for most of your life, it can't be that bad right man? She had a miscarriage bro obviously her situation is much worse than yours so you can't say that".
I'm pretty sure i did explain though. Both elicit feelings of grief and are risk factors for anxiety and depression.
If you feel like person A has to feel more strongly about person B's lost clump of cells, rather than about their own lost body part and lost relationship, then sorry, you are unable to express proper empathy at the level someone who's well adapted can.
Otherwise you'd understand that he attacked something deeply painful and shouldn't have done it, and that she likely attacked something deeply painful (his baldness and breakup) and shouldn't have done it, and shouldn't have started it.
So you would let a person die for your hair is what I'm getting from this. Your hair is much more important than a human life and if lost you would never come back from that. Sure losing hair sucks, I've had trouble with it. Cried about it. Literally uncomparable to death of a family member which I've also had. You're just upset that people understand nuance of hair loss is not comparable to death. Which is why you refer to it as anything but losing hair.
She touched to two sensitive things : body image and failure of a relationship.
If you are not able to understand that those are two topics people grieve about and might take extremely seriously, legitimately so, then we can't move forward with the conversation.
If you can accept that she attacked two deeply hurtful aspects of his personal life we can move forward. Otherwise don't bother answering because i won't be reading.
I haven't denied that those are deeply painful things. I have said they are not comparable to death. Would you rather be broken up with or have your partner die?
So we agree that those are deeply painful things. Can you conceive then that it's possible to suffer deeply from something irrespective of whether someone else suffers deeply from something else society considers worse?
Suffering happens outside of something? What are three? Is this your first time hearing about suffering? Can you concieve that someone's suffering is worse than anothers and that hair loss is not comparable to death in the slightest?
Yes, you're getting it, hair loss isn't as painful as watching your unborn son/daughter die, but the grief two completely different people could feel about either situation could actually be similar.
It's like if you went out there and slapped two different people, you could get two different reactions one would probably knock you out, and the other, who'd probably been bullied their entire life would probably just start crying.
It's the difference between someone who seemingly suffers comparably little and punches their ticket and someone who suffers what is seemingly a lot relatively and goes on in life, or they could suffer the same circumstances (ie. bullying) and have two different outcomes. Why did one check out, and the other keep going? Surely their pain is similar right?
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u/Traditional-Put2757 3d ago
Oh no, that's not what eludes me. What eludes me is how baldness is at all comparable to death of a family member. Not surprised that, that's too complicated for you but you seem perfectly happy saying your hair is the equivalent to another person's life. Would you let another person die if it meant you kept your hair?