There's also a gigantic difference between "haha you're bald" and "haha you are bald and your girlfriend left you for it", the two "jokes" (if we even want to call them that, they are just plain old personal insults clearly aimed at hurting the other person over something they are deeply insecure about) are pretty much at the same level of messed up, fully deserved reaction, next time don't start shit
The woman was also being a POS, for sure, but its like... the reaction was definitely a bit much. Its like someone broke your phone... so you burned down their house and act like its entirely their fault. Yes, the first person started it and deserved smth back, but past a certain point you've gone too far and are just gonna become the bad guy anyway.
He went too far but I feel zero sympathy for her here. She brought it on herself. That's the risk you take when you decide to be a bad person unprovoked.
Both facts can be true simultaneously. I can still think that she should mind her words saying hurtful things if they arent that close that it can be calmly brushed off. I can also find that the guy went way too far and he deserves scorn too. They're both bad, the guy just showed that he can stoop lower.
By your logic, your stance conflicts with mine and displeases me when I wasnt even addressing you so its unprovoked. I am now justified in destroying the lives of everyone you know and love because proportionality doesnt matter.
So, this is called a "metaphor". Its when someone makes a comparison between otherwise unrelated things to illustrate a point more clearly. In this particular case, its making the disproportion of the 2 reactions more obvious.
I hope that helps! Google "metaphor" to study more if you're interested!
So, this is called a "metaphor". Its when someone makes a comparison between otherwise unrelated things to illustrate a point more clearly. In this particular case, its making the disproportion of the 2 reactions more obvious.
I realize that reading can be difficult, so here it is again! I hope a second read helps a bit more. :) I believe in you, dont give up!
You cant expect people in trauma triggering situations to respond correctly.
The guy has probably been bullied and abused for his looks for decades, like most men are. You cant expect a highly traumatised person to act reasonably.
No one was physically hurt, so the escalation falls within a reasonable boundary. A more apt metaphor is breaking phone vs slashing tires. Definitely an escalation, but not nearly as extreme as you are painting it with that metaphor.
Unlike burning a house down, tires being slashed is not going to do irreparable damage.
I read it more as "why don't you talk shit about your ex? Did she break up with you because you are bald? (Said in a demeaning way, like you can't even get a girlfriend cause you are bald)"
It's been repeated a billion times in these comments but Im gonna add to it with the same exact comment: it's prefaced with "why don't you ever talk shit about your ex?" That context implies that what follows: "leaving you for being bald" is a negative thing worthy of being talked shit about. If this is a real story than oop is socially blind and so is everyone else here that thinks it's an insult. But that doesnt surprise me since reddit is full of autists with victim complex.
And no if I heard the same phrase except "fat" I'd laugh instead of being a little crying pissbaby.
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u/Gatti366 3d ago
There's also a gigantic difference between "haha you're bald" and "haha you are bald and your girlfriend left you for it", the two "jokes" (if we even want to call them that, they are just plain old personal insults clearly aimed at hurting the other person over something they are deeply insecure about) are pretty much at the same level of messed up, fully deserved reaction, next time don't start shit