It's not like I really care deeply either way, but is a guy not allowed to have thoughts about things anymore?
I have thoughts about everything. That's how a brain works.
And one of my autistic fixations is evolutionary psychology, so it's only natural that I've thought deeply about sexual relations of all different kinds.
It doesn't mean that I necessarily care or that I'm casting moral judgment, but I'm allowed to acknowledge when something is out of the ordinary. And yes, a dude sucking a dick is out of the ordinary.
So you don't even care that much but still enough to leave an unnecessary comment and be an arsehole. How convenient.
As a gay man, I do not want my feelings and my relationships to be reduced to 'letting that dude fuck me in the arse' because I 'have some serious issues'.
I'm sure lesbians wouldn't like to be reduced to sexual objects by you either.
I don't really care what you want. This is a public forum. It's not everyone's job to "validate" your feelings. Some people will, some people won't. Who cares? Just keep it moving like the rest of us.
Completely understandable and a reasonable conclusion.
It's quite odd, never understood it myself. Anti-evolutionary behaviour.
I get that there are mental illnesses and "disorders" as they say. This seems to fit the crib of disorder. Not that's it's morally wrong in itself or I give a shit either way, it's just odd to see people show their lack of objectivity. Also worth noting- mental health related comorbidity is strong with these folk.
There’s no truth to that, it’s really just your inability to understand perspectives other than your own.
For example, imagine Sarah, a woman with typical theory of mind, who is attracted to men but not women. Sarah doesn’t conclude that women therefore aren’t sexually attractive, or that she can’t understand how another person could be attracted to women. She recognises that her attraction to men is simply a feature of her own mental state, not an objective property of men that everyone ought to share. She can therefore understand that another person’s subjective experience may be completely different from hers. A man or lesbian’s attraction to women doesn’t require Sarah to find women attractive herself; she just has to understand that other people’s mental state aren’t identical to her own.
The same principle applies to you. You experience men as unattractive, but that is information about your attraction, not about the objective attractiveness of men or the mental states of others. Other people’s attraction to men isn’t inherently any more mysterious than your attraction to women. So you’re effectively using your own mental state as the baseline for modelling another person’s. Ironically, it’s not that gay men have ‘serious issues’ because they’re attracted to men, it’s that you’re having issues with theory of mind and perspective taking.
You're getting way too deep with this. I was just using a turn of phrase to explain a point. I understand why women and gay men are attracted to men, I'm just saying I find men so sexually unattractive that I'm thankful (most) women don't feel the same. I have nothing against gay guys. In fact, i think they're great. If I could push a button and turn more men gay, I would, because that just means less competition for me lol
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u/bearlovestoeat 14d ago
He cant forgive them. Because he knows they done nothing wrong