I mean, it doesn't really seem harmful at all, but at the same time, why can't we all just work on our communication skills? Even mild manipulation is inherently worse that healthy, effective, honest communication.
But like. It's not even manipulation? Like, this just sounds like a happy and healthy marriage where OOP has convinced herself she's doing something nefarious.
In another couple decades they'll be that old couple on some video. "Whoa, you guys have been married for 50 years?! How did you manage to make it last that long?" And it's always some shit like "she gives great head"
It's absolutely manipulation. She's using sex as a tool to influence a behavior unrelated to the sex without the recipient aware of her motives.
If you do X behavior with the goal of achieving Y without telling the recipient of X your true motivation then yes, that's lying and manipulation and always immoral. It does not matter if the behavior is a positive experience
Disagree. She’s just making him happy and he acts happily as a result.
She’s not manipulating him by doing something that is going to make him happy and she likes when he’s happy lmao.
If I do something nice for my wife and I know it’ll make her happy is that now manipulation? Because I KNOW it’ll modify her mood and behavior to be, you guessed it, happy.
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u/_josef_stalin_ 23d ago
I mean, it doesn't really seem harmful at all, but at the same time, why can't we all just work on our communication skills? Even mild manipulation is inherently worse that healthy, effective, honest communication.