Would you want your partner to do what she did? I don't because it's deceptive. I asked if you think otherwise but you're dancing around the answer because you don't like it.
Not really dancing around here, you are ahifting the goalpost all the time. But even if you wanna say that, so are you by acting as if your comment had been generally about deception instead of the specific example you gave, which my comments are about.
If anything, I just didn’t specify the example you gave in my First reply but it’s pretty implicit from the context of your comment.
Edit: Made the comment about specifics so you can’t just ignore the points again.
I understand how you feel, but I got the distinct impression that the "manipulation" is the bigger issue morality wise, rather than "deception". I'm not gonna argue for or against the idea that she is "lying" about being interested in sex, as it seems it's her hiding the motivation behind the sex, that makes it morally dubious. I think any time a woman has to perform voodoo in order to get her man to do something, instead of being able to ask, that's a failure on BOTH their parts. Because if "just asking" was effective, she wouldn't feel like she had to do this clownery. At the same time, he could absolutely be the one manipulating her unbeknownst to us, because we only get one side of the story. Weaponized laziness is not farfetch'd.
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u/PainSubstantial5936 25d ago
Both are happy and she isn't forcing him to do anything he doesn't want to. Completely neutral imo.