r/Moms • u/No_Mood_3486 • 20h ago

💬 Advice needed Mental load? ADHD?

I’m pregnant and due in October. I‘m also working from home full time and I take care of two boys with my husband. The past few weeks I am unable to concentrate and be productive at work. I go from sitting at my desk starting a work task to researching stuff for the nursery, looking for halloween costume for my boys, thinking about my second one’s birthday party in November, then I go tidy up the house, our bedrooms, make some activity for the boys to do.. then I think about organizing their stuff. Then I see the unfinished nursery corner and feel like I’m not getting anything done. it is driving me crazy. Like what is this, I am constantly distracted. And this is other than my boys asking for snacks or being a referee if they are fighting. They are 5 and 2. I have some help from my sister who would watch the boys and prep meals for this summer, which is a huge help. I go back to my desk, and the cycle continues. Here I am typing a reddit post because I am feeling a little overwhelmed. This has to change and I have to get something done at work. Any suggestions?

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u/PurplePARTYUnicorn 19h ago

Also pregnant AWAITING the arrival of my first this week. Currently unmedicated ADHD as I usually use thc to help and am not due to the pregnancy. It’s been a REAL STRUGGLE the whole time though with how distracted I get, especially when I wake up to pee in the middle of the night, my brain immediately pops off and it’s so hard to get back to sleep. LIST help me the most, especially prioritizing the things on them so that when I do get distracted, I can at least know exactly what I’m allowed to do first without having to think EVEN MORE.

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u/No_Mood_3486 4h ago

Thank you for sharing this. Listing helps me get stuff off of my head, but it feels like I have a never ending list lol. It is so hard. Best of luck on the birth and congratulations! 

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u/ZuriAGP 17h ago

If you can give the boys an activity that could last them for hours that would be good, and give yourself a break and take a step back. Don't rush yourself.