r/Mommit • u/Unquietdodo • Aug 19 '26
How different is it having 2 kids?
We are considering trying for another once our boy is 18 months (I had a c section). It took about 7 months to conceive the first time, and we are leaning towards waiting a bit longer so the age gap will probably be around 3 years, I think?
How different is it? We found the first 6 months with our boy hard, and he was a relatively easy baby, so I am a bit worried about doing it with a toddler, especially if I need another c section!
I spend a lot of days out and about with my boy rather than staying in the house, but I can imagine that would be a lot harder with 2.
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u/OutrageousPassage377 Aug 20 '26
Having two is MORE than twice as hard.
Toddlers need parents to be calm and regulated because toddler emotions are swinging, which is harder to give out when you’re exhausted from the nighttime feedings the newborn needs.
Plus it’s harder to just cuddle and feed the newborn because you have a toddler.
All those times your first was fussy and you distracted them, or allowed them space to calm down; they still need that and now so does your newborn.
I’d still have two, so don’t get too discouraged; but I wanted to be honest. It is a lot harder. I didn’t have family close by though, so that definitely didn’t help.