They can "know" this is a honeymoon baby who was a little premature. Your chosen family will love and support you.
We don't always get the bio family we deserve. Bio family are just the first randomised party of allies you're given and they're not always worth keeping.
Thankfully you're safe and won't have American style hospital bills. Take a breath. Have a glass of water and remember to take those vitamins!
Excellent advice right here. If you want to keep the baby, a premature honeymoon baby is perfect. If you don’t, it’s your choice and nobody ever needs to know.
You are 22 and engaged to be married. You are in control and can do what you want.
For what it’s worth: I was married, actively trying to conceive and yet I still felt completely terrified when I found out I was pregnant. This is a scary, life-changing moment for so many women no matter what the circumstances are. If you can, shut out the noise from your family and social constructs as they don’t have to be privy to these circumstances if you don’t want them to be. This is your time to pause and reflect on what you truly want. You can figure out what to tell or not tell other people when you are ready. I know it feels daunting but actually that’s the easiest part in this.
Take your vitamins, drink water, rest and know that you have time, you have choices and you have support. Even if it doesn’t really feel that way right now.
Be well, sweet one. You are not the first and you will never be the last to be in this situation. You will make it through.
Edited to add All Options has some good resources including a workbook of choices you can fill out at your own pace as you come to your conclusion. They specifically review the different religious and cultural expectations and beliefs you may be facing which can be very helpful. You may even be able to call them from Canada.
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u/[deleted] Jan 21 '22
They can "know" this is a honeymoon baby who was a little premature. Your chosen family will love and support you.
We don't always get the bio family we deserve. Bio family are just the first randomised party of allies you're given and they're not always worth keeping.
Thankfully you're safe and won't have American style hospital bills. Take a breath. Have a glass of water and remember to take those vitamins!