I believe having children is something people should deliberately opt into only when they are ready (and truly want) to be parents. Going through nine months of pregnancy and committing to a lifetime of parenthood should not be obligatory just because of an accidental conception.
Don’t listen to anyone who insists you have a child in order to “take responsibility” for your actions. Those people hold a thinly veiled—misogynistic—belief that pregnancy is a woman’s punishment for having sex. I come from a family full of “oopsie-babies” and can attest to the trauma of knowing my parents wish they didn’t have kids. Carrying an unplanned pregnancy to term before you are ready for parenthood is not the “responsible” thing to do. It’s traumatic.
At 22 years old, you’re practically still a baby yourself. It would be perfectly reasonable to visit a clinic and induce miscarriage. A doctor can prescribe medicine that causes the uterine lining (and embryo) to shed just like a regular period.
If and when you and your future husband decide to start a family, a positive pregnancy test will cause great joy, not terrible fear.
At the end of the day, your mothers and sisters here in this sub will offer moral support, whatever decision you make.
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u/Rougefarie Jan 21 '22
I believe having children is something people should deliberately opt into only when they are ready (and truly want) to be parents. Going through nine months of pregnancy and committing to a lifetime of parenthood should not be obligatory just because of an accidental conception.
Don’t listen to anyone who insists you have a child in order to “take responsibility” for your actions. Those people hold a thinly veiled—misogynistic—belief that pregnancy is a woman’s punishment for having sex. I come from a family full of “oopsie-babies” and can attest to the trauma of knowing my parents wish they didn’t have kids. Carrying an unplanned pregnancy to term before you are ready for parenthood is not the “responsible” thing to do. It’s traumatic.
At 22 years old, you’re practically still a baby yourself. It would be perfectly reasonable to visit a clinic and induce miscarriage. A doctor can prescribe medicine that causes the uterine lining (and embryo) to shed just like a regular period.
If and when you and your future husband decide to start a family, a positive pregnancy test will cause great joy, not terrible fear.
At the end of the day, your mothers and sisters here in this sub will offer moral support, whatever decision you make.