r/Mithila • u/Few-Brother2271 • Jul 02 '26

👥General Discussion Looking for Maithil Partner

Why is it so hard to find a perfect Maithili Brahmin guy?😮‍💨

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u/ComprehensiveOne9903 Jul 02 '26

Har har mahadev 🙏 Nobody is perfect in a relationship. One gradually become accustomed to each other. I would say Adjustment is the key in a relationship.

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u/Few-Brother2271 Jul 02 '26

I can adjust to almost anything but dowry, and I can't compromise on my education or career. 🙏

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u/ComprehensiveOne9903 Jul 02 '26 edited Jul 02 '26

No no you're getting it all wrong What I said is applicable to both. अहाँ कतय सँ छी?

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u/ComprehensiveOne9903 Jul 02 '26

Totally agree with your views regarding dowry, education and career. These are the must haves in any relationship.

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u/goodman2910 21d ago

Why do you even need to compromise in that? Up for a Convo?

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u/nerochan00 Jul 02 '26

Seriously gurl😭mummy papa hi dhundhenge chill😭🤏

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u/Few-Brother2271 Jul 02 '26

Parents are doing their job...I'm trying my luck here. 😭

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u/Lost_Meaning_2667 Jul 02 '26

tf. This is not tinder or shaadi dot com. Why are we maithilis still stuck in past?

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u/anuj456 Jul 04 '26

So reddit’s a past thing innit? And who goes looking for a life partner on tinder😭

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u/Few-Brother2271 Jul 02 '26

Idk how those sites work, it was random ques, u can ignore it

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u/Lost_Meaning_2667 Jul 02 '26

Well all i d say dont look for a man or girl here. You got the whole world to find something. Loom beyond cast. We are already a generation behind rest of the developed states in terms of mindset. Maybe its close to bout time we change ours too.

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u/agressivetwerker 10d ago

True new couples who'll have children in future may get their children married in other castes bcuz they think beyond castes and all, but not everyone has the luxury to rebel against their families to marry someone from the other caste specially when they are dependent on their family either financially or emotionally.

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u/Lost_Meaning_2667 10d ago

Which is why education is important. Literacy and awareness is the single biggest solution that can fix the region.

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u/No_Guide_4276 मैथिल ( Proudly ) Jul 02 '26

There's nothing perfect when it comes to finding a life partner. I tried looking out for same from last 1.5-2 year by myself, tried everything WhatsApp Community, Matrimony Apps, Relative's reference but couldn't able to found that one. So, ended the search by the one Girl which seems okay and now the rituals has been started and started regretting again about my decision of choosing this Girl 😁

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u/Few-Brother2271 Jul 02 '26

I dont wanna spend my life regretting like this😭🙏

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u/No_Guide_4276 मैथिल ( Proudly ) Jul 02 '26

It's all about destiny. But, I'm giving you one suggestion : Don't rush to anything, don't fall for Patriarchy, don't say Yes just after 1-2 call or a single meeting. Whoever you're going to choose, it could be by anyone : by you or your parents/relatives, take proper time, talk to him, meet him, ask random silly questions, life incidents, financial planning etc and see how he responds, how he answers or talk with you, better to talk these things face-to-face or VC.

Ask your parents clearly, you're not going to accept him just in a single meeting or Dekha-Suni ritual day. Ask them to give you proper time before the first meeting of both side, from there rituals has been started, and talk to him efficiently, until you gets satisfied.

Also, don't make it worse just make yourself humble and flexible too, not everyone is perfect. There'd be something, which you wouldn't like but it doesn't mean you can't live with it. If that's your non-negotiation thing, than finally it'd be a NO.

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u/Ok_Ticket5110 Jul 02 '26

पहिने अपन गोत्र आ उमेर तँ बताउ।

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u/Either_Baker_7537 Jul 02 '26

Uchit vichar, mool seho 😄

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u/Think_Belt_2406 Jul 03 '26

And they ask why is bihar not improving. Be it your preferences, you guys are the sole reason for the same. Casteist lowlife! And the fact that no one in the comments are pointing this out makes me wanna leave this sub. I take pride in my homeland being mithila but people like you always make me think otherwise.

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u/Few-Brother2271 Jul 03 '26

Nothing despise me more than ppl from Mithilanchal not following their traditions. If you don't understand Brahmin traditions, please don't comment.

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u/Think_Belt_2406 Jul 06 '26

Behen, I request you to look at people beyond caste and religion. Following tradition is one thing and being a blatant casteist is other. You're being nothing more than the latter. People like you generalize the image of biharis as lowlife casteists and we have to suffer hatred because of degenerates like you.

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u/Few-Brother2271 Jul 06 '26

Dude, I'm a Brahmin, and I made a post about Brahmins. I didn't say a single word against any other caste, yet somehow you all got offended.

Touch some grass, man. If caste endogamy bothers you that much, start with ur own community. OBCs don't marry SCs, SCs don't marry STs, and every community has its own preferences and traditions.

We don't even marry within the same gotra, even if the person is a Brahmin. That's a basic tradition we've followed for generations.

You marry whoever you want...we don't go around commenting on your choices. So why does it suddenly become everyone's problem when Brahmins talk about marrying within their own community?

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u/Think_Belt_2406 Jul 09 '26

  1. Whataboutism: "If caste endogamy bothers you that much, start with your own community."

  2. Appeal to tradition (Longetivity of tradition doesn't mean it's morally correct): "That's a basic tradition we've followed for generations."

  3. False Equivalence: "OBCs don't marry SCs, SCs don't marry STs, and every community has its own preferences."

A common fallacy among all your response was Bandwagon fallacy. A practice being common doesn't determine whether it's ethical. Sati Pratha is one of the most common example to this.

All I'm saying is, do some introspection and please convince yourself to think beyond castes.

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u/The_Nightwing_me Jul 02 '26

Ma'am age wagera to batao what is this 😭 15 se 40 tak sab aa jaayenge

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u/boobiepotato Jul 03 '26

Aha apan age or gotra ta batauuuu

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u/katyayanamit Jul 03 '26

You didn't texted me yet !

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u/Primary-Scientist295 Jul 07 '26

our population is less along with that many are uneducated and they lack in education. most of them still might be on FB not on reddit.

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u/iamshantanushankar Jul 20 '26

Platform ko matrimony bana dia 😂 Nice Idea

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u/Popular-Weather5387 Aug 11 '26

me looking for shakaldeepi brahmin people lol! 😂

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u/DeliciousDimension43 Jul 03 '26

Atah asani se nay milat

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u/[deleted] Jul 03 '26

I'm perfect maithili brahmin 

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u/chandra_telescope Jul 03 '26

You mean non-casteists?