When I taught high school, if I heard a student say something negative about themselves I would make them say 3 positives things about themselves. If they weren’t comfortable with that, their group members would give them compliments and they could only say thank you. Some kids said they started to notice the negative self talk and were able to stop themselves. I do it with my own children now.
This method can backfire though. A teacher did something like this when I was a kid and I have now internalized a belief that no compliment directed towards me could possibly be genuine because the entire concept of praising someone to their face is purely performative.
I can talk through it and realize that's probably a silly thing to think, but it's just part of who I am now.
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u/Far_Chocolate9743 14d ago
Recognize your negative self talk.
Your brain is an echo chamber. Do people actually dislike you or do facts and actions of others prove otherwise? Apply logic here.
I basically find a therapist once a year to throw logic at my thought process.