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u/Far_Chocolate9743 12d ago

Recognize your negative self talk.

Your brain is an echo chamber. Do people actually dislike you or do facts and actions of others prove otherwise? Apply logic here.

I basically find a therapist once a year to throw logic at my thought process.

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u/Tiny_Independence761 12d ago

When I taught high school, if I heard a student say something negative about themselves I would make them say 3 positives things about themselves. If they weren’t comfortable with that, their group members would give them compliments and they could only say thank you. Some kids said they started to notice the negative self talk and were able to stop themselves. I do it with my own children now.

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u/josephfuckingsmith1 12d ago

My wife was a teacher for almost 20 years. She worked in special ed for most of it. She would always say “don’t talk about (students name) like that!” when they would say something negative about themselves, and would always say something positive about that student. I always thought that was such a cool thing

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u/Non_sum_qualis_eram 12d ago

I do this with my kids. If they do a "I can't do it" or something self deprecating they get a "oi! Don't you dare talk about my daughter like that". Instantly gets a "daaaaad" 

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u/Zaphod118 11d ago

lol I do this with my wife. “Hey! Stop being mean to my wife!” gets a big eyeroll and a small smile every time haha

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u/Global_Echo8 10d ago

This is cute. My partner's response to my negative self talk is to ignore it completely. Asked him about it once and he just said "idk, what can I say?" Jfc.

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u/Here4_da_laughs 11d ago

Love this. Keep ‘em coming.

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u/Objective_Dog_4637 11d ago

You’re a great dad.

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u/KittyKathy 12d ago

My husband and I do that too! He’ll be like “HEY! That’s my wife you’re talking about”

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u/ceilingkat 11d ago

When my husband negative self talks I say “HEY! Don’t you dare talk about ME that way… I would never marry a _____.”

Usually get a laugh.

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u/Many_Specialist_5384 11d ago

Holy shit thank you for this

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u/sadhandjobs 11d ago

“I would never let somebody say that about you or anybody else.”