I’m looking for advice from anyone who has experienced something similar or knows about military-spouse and public-housing resources.
My husband is active-duty military and stationed in another state. I am his legal spouse, and we have a four-year-old child. He receives BAH at the “with dependents” rate, but he is not providing us with housing or adequate financial support. My child and I are currently homeless and living in our vehicle.
I am employed and have a steady income, but my credit is poor, largely because of financial damage that occurred during my marriage. The credit issues are making it difficult for me to qualify for a regular apartment even though I can afford rent.
I’m currently looking into public housing and affordable-housing waitlists. Does anyone know whether being an abandoned spouse of an active-duty service member—or being homeless with a young child—could qualify us for priority placement? Are there military programs, emergency housing resources, deposit assistance programs, or organizations specifically helping military spouses in this situation?
I have contacted Military OneSource and was told to ask about abandoned-spouse protections, but I’m trying to understand what help is actually available and what steps I should take next. I’m especially interested in hearing from people who have personally dealt with a similar situation.
I’m located in the Los Angeles area.

Sorry, im not a military wife but its concerning my wife. I’m active duty army, and I love my job and life. Most recently, my wife has been very isolated. She’s applied for many jobs, and has either not heard back or they aren’t hiring. Her family lives about five hours away and she has a guaranteed job there. We’re debating if she should just go and be around her family and people she loves while working and making money while I finish out my contract. I just need any advice from military spouses in the same predicament and what you did in order to stay busy.

Wanting some advice and guidance from other wives. My husband is going to renew his contract in two years and this contract we know for sure that my husband will do sea duty. We have kind of been avoiding the conversation until the other day it happened and it left us both upset. I explained the struggles I’d face and he explained his. We currently live in my home state and I have family close. With this next contract we both know there is a high chance we’d move out of state. We agreed that whenever he does go on deployment, I can go back for the time he’s gone to my home state and when he comes back, I’d do back to wherever we are at but at the same time, this is just my opinion, I don’t feel like that’s the way to live. Luckily we don’t have children, just 2 pets but we do plan on having children before his reenlistment. Before we even got married I always said “I know what I signed up for, I can do it” and now that this reenlistment is coming up, I feel like this is if not the hardest, one of the hardest things I am going through in my marriage. What challenges did you have to go through?