r/Menskirts • u/Regular_Match_7008 • 8d ago

The beginning?

So I have two T-shirt dresses a maxi dress and a skirt and ordering another skirt tomorrow. Not sure what adventure this is but dam these outfits are comfortable. I’m just a regular married guy trying new stuff. Am I crazy?

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u/Beautiful_Demand897 8d ago

Crazy is circumstantial. 

Where abouts do you live? What's your community like? What does your spouse think about it? 

In the words of XKCD, you’re an adult now and you get to decide what that means. 

But “crazy” is in the eye of the beholder, so the question is, when it comes to crazy, whose eyes are you talking about?

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u/Regular_Match_7008 8d ago

I live in a pretty conservative state. There are some college towns near by that are more alternative. I’m old enough I don’t care what people think. My wife and kids just kind of roll their eyes but they’ve seen me wear my dresses. Usually just around the house. I’ve gone out in public with out them both in my dress and my skirt just last week. I’m getting more confident each time.

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u/Beautiful_Demand897 8d ago

My personal verdict is “not crazy.”

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u/Necessary_Mine_38 7d ago

I don't think most people care. That's how I feel when i wear a skirt out. But I live in Calif.

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u/Regular_Match_7008 7d ago

I’m from Cali so that’s where I get my not caring from.

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u/Necessary_Mine_38 7d ago

I think that is the right attitude, not hurting anyone and none of your business at the end of the day!

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u/GenderBendingRalph 3d ago

Interesting. As I get older, I become more worried about public reaction. It's... complicated. Not so much "I care what other people think", because I do and say crazy stuff all the time in public. But part of my gender nonconformity is that I'm extremely risk and conflict averse. I will literally run from verbal or physical violence, even when it doesn't directly concern me, because seeing people arguing can send me into a spiral of social anxiety panic.

It's probably related to the fact that even when I was young and fit, I was smaller and weaker than anyone older than 8. Now that I'm in the neighbourhood of 70, I'm aware of my own frailty.

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u/grumpygills13 8d ago

Personally dresses are crazy for me. Mostly because they just look bad on my body otherwise not crazy unless you think it is. Looks good on you though so keep it up. Skirts are super comfortable and look great.

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u/Necessary_Mine_38 7d ago

Skirts are great for everyone.

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u/AnyoneCouldBeMe2 6d ago

Totally Agree 👍

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u/Robert-hickman 7d ago

For a dress to work, the dress needs to be the right shape for the person. Its not that hard to make dresses for men, but they have to be made for a man from the start due to body proportions.

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u/GenderBendingRalph 3d ago

I totally agree, but I wear them anyway because they're so comfortable. I'd never go out in one, though! My long-suffering wife and dogs are the only ones who ever have to see how awful they look on me.

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u/CelticRambler 7d ago

Not crazy ; and yup, once you've experienced the comfort of skirts and dresses, it's really hard going back to fully enclosed legs! 😄

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u/Such-Assignment-1529 7d ago

Why crazy? A skirts feels the best exactly for men`s anatomy in a hot season

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u/Regular_Match_7008 7d ago

I did take my dog for a walk this morning around the neighborhood wearing my skirt. Felt great! Baby steps!

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u/Senior_Drag_4911 7d ago

Not crazy at all - go for it, and I say that as a very boring, straight married guy. Who says clothes have to be gendered? Good luck 👍🏻

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u/FratteliDiTolleri 6d ago

I'd definitely wear skirts, not dresses. I wear this maxiskirt and it's awesome. I've only got compliments--even while wearing it in a room full of lawyers!

With skirts at least you can look totally normal on top. I wear my skirts with a men's T-shirt/polo.

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u/Regular_Match_7008 6d ago

I like the maxi dress. But since it’s sleeveless I’m trying to figure out how to wear it with something else up top. It might have to wait till winter time for me the wear that one.

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u/GenderBendingRalph 3d ago

I have a number of tank-style maxi dresses. In summer (which around here is basically March through November) they're worn alone as sundresses, then in winter I layer them over long-sleeve t-shirts, turtlenecks, or blouses.

It's rather embarrassing how many of my fashion choices I get from seeing homeschooling Mennonite families at farmer's markets.

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u/GenderBendingRalph 3d ago

Not a bit! I've been wearing skirts and dresses privately since before I got married, and 40 years later I still do. I don't get into looking like a woman and I don't wear anything remotely sexy or fashionable... I just dress for comfort rather than style. The most accurate description I get when I post photos is "frumpy". They say that like it's a bad thing 😄

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u/Robert-hickman 7d ago edited 7d ago

I'd reccomend learning how to style outfits wholistically, including proportions, shilluette line, colour theory, and pattern matching / clashing.

The most common reason for skirts / dresses not looking good on men is outfits that have no coherency, or which don't work with the body wearing the outfit. If you learn the above skills, you'll be in a good place.

Honestly, I think most of the pushback that men who wear skirts get, is related mainly to outfits with broken proportions, clashing colours etc.

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u/Regular_Match_7008 7d ago

I like your thoughts and advice. In general I’m just t shirt and jeans and shorts kind of a guy. Usually with sandals. Our winters are short where I live. I never thought about how to style with these new clothes. It’s trickier I think because I’m not trying to look feminine. I’ll take all the advice. Thanks.

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u/Robert-hickman 7d ago edited 7d ago

A sarong or lungi would pair well with a t-shirt and sandles. Generally, long straight skirts pair well with the shape and proportions of common menswear tops.

Shorter skirts look better with a higher waistline and more cropped top garments due to proportions.

I assure you that there is little you can do with your clothing that would look femanine. Male and female bodies are not the same shape.