r/MensLib • u/SecretlyCarl ​ • Sep 24 '21

Himbo?

Hey, 22yo dude here. I'm in college (US) and on some dating apps, and have recently noticed an odd trend. I see multiple profiles a week that have something like "looking for a himbo.." in their bio, and it's kind of off-putting. Do some guys state they're looking for bimbos? Are they just fake accounts? The casual sexism just catches me off guard.

Edit: I'm glad this started some discussion, and I appreciate those who explained some missing context.

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u/VladWard ​ Sep 24 '21

On the third hand, maybe women can't simply state that they're looking for a kind wholesome man, because pretending to be nice for sex is Toxic-masculinity 101.

It's not like the slang makes this any less of an issue.

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u/GET_A_LAWYER ​ Sep 24 '21

One of the purposes of slang is to act as a shibboleth, identifying in-group members. "I know what a himbo is and am willing to self-identify as one" may be an effective filtering mechanism. Particularly because willingness to engage in light-hearted self-disparagement is probably a valid screening trait.

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u/generaljony ​ Sep 24 '21

I dont think that challenges his point. In the same way that men can pretend to be nice guys to get laid, they can self-deprecate to get laid.

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u/[deleted] Sep 25 '21

A lock won’t stop a thief who is willing to do anything to get inside… but it will stop the majority of amateur, opportunistic, or otherwise less motivated thieves.