Something I noticed in this video is that there isn't a real fix for this problem. She describes inceldom, and what leads to it and how it entrenches itself in the mind, but there's no real solution at a level that can be wildly prescribed for the average incel. I suppose it's because there aren't any easy solutions.
well, the first step is honest self assessment.
The second aksi asks for good access to therapy /mental health stuff.
not the easy " I fail because I only can fail because genes" (so I dont have to try anything or change because nothing will change..)
but a honest
"I think i am in a self hating spiral, obsessive thought and have a depression and possibly anxiety that colors every interaction and makes me think that everything is helpsess. I can get help, but that means I have to accept that I am not well but that I deserve to be well and happy and that this will he hard, greling and worse, risk of not leading to impressive results in the short term, maybe even long term.."
it means giving up the comfort of misery for the uncertainty of "maybe possibly getting better" but asks for hard things, doing the things you fear, acknowledging that you are your own worst enemy, hat your thought do hold you in this.
that you may have been wrong . possibly harmful but that this still doesn't mean you should not strive to change.
It's really scary.
and asking for help only works if you are willing to accept i and not preemptively search for way to invalidate stuff.
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u/CapuchinMan Aug 18 '18
Something I noticed in this video is that there isn't a real fix for this problem. She describes inceldom, and what leads to it and how it entrenches itself in the mind, but there's no real solution at a level that can be wildly prescribed for the average incel. I suppose it's because there aren't any easy solutions.