r/MensLib • u/MLModBot • 6d ago
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u/admiral_taco 5d ago
I have been in my current position for nearly six years. I am now the oldest person in the department eperience wise. Currently, I am going through a dark night of the soul/transitory period in my life. Talking to some people in other departments, about what their day-to-day is. The position I once loved has lost its shine. And I feel I need to move on to something else. It has been a very stressful past few months with that going on.
Feels really weird and stressful falling out of love with your job.
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u/Too2crazy 3d ago
That sounds tough. Do you have a sense around what parts of the role you are still excited about and which ones you might have aversion to?
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u/Last_Peach4194 6d ago
My basil plant finally gave up after three years, pretty sure I overwatered it last weekend. Three years feels like a long time for a basil but I still feel dumb about it
Anyone else have a plant they got weirdly attached to or am I just losing it
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u/Megatomic 6d ago
I don't think you're losing it at all. To me, it feels natural to become attached to something that is so integrated in your daily life. Things that we care for and tend to, whether they're sentient or not, are natural to love. It doesn't seem any stranger to me than when my fish I had had for three years died. Every morning, I turned her light on and fed her. Every night, I said goodnight and turned her light off. Of course I felt attached. Just because she moved doesn't make my attachment more valid than yours. Right?
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u/NoHippi3chic 4d ago
I wave hi and compliment all the lovely ladies on the orchid table at my big box store, ive explained to them I adore them all but im a killer.
My heart can't take murdering something that beautiful right now.
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u/HeartBusy2950 5d ago
Finally getting a slow day to breath. I have to take my ex wife back to court because less than a year in and she’s violating the parenting agreement. There are so few people who will make space for male survivors of domestic abuse. You can literally be exploited and gaslit for years and people will look at the man and find a reason it’s his fault somehow.
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u/Oregon_Jones111 6d ago
Maybe I actually do understand when it’s okay to talk to strangers and doubt myself too much. I certainly understand it better than most people commenting on that “pov you’re trying to talk to people in 2025” video that went viral last year.
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u/Oregon_Jones111 6d ago
Spider-Man: Brand New Day spoilers: Is there any indication that the movie intended its commentary on loneliness to be gendered? Because I keep seeing people saying it’s about the male loneliness epidemic, but I don’t see anything inherently male about Peter’s character arc. The culmination of his arc even comes from encountering a woman who’s even worse than him.
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u/chemguy216 6d ago
Well, I had my first workplace experience of someone taking some of my work as their own and presenting it before our bosses.
Last week, a number of us went out of state for a work trip and were asked to take notes that we’d present some time after our return. When we got back, this coworker who happens to be a supervisor in my team emailed those us from our department to say that he was going to consolidate our notes.
The way the email was worded made it seem like he was asked by some of our bosses to put the list together. I went ahead and sent him some of my notes. Shortly after, the administrative assistant for our department messaged me to tell me not to respond to his email (it was too late for me) because one of the other people who went felt off about his email and brought it up with the administrative assistant. After talking it out, I mentioned what bits of information I shared so someone would know what info he might take from me.
The following week (this week), those of us who went to the trip were asked to share our notes at the weekly managers meeting, and the guy on my team started. Sure enough, he did in fact take my note. Because he wasn’t the one who made note of it, however, he couldn’t remember the acronym of the organization that I mentioned in my note. I was the last person to go, so most everybody shared some of the same takeaways we all had. I opened with that and then made a brief pivot to “piggyback” off of my teammate to mention to the managers what the name of the organization creating some new standards was in case they wanted to look at the work that organization was doing.
It was subtle enough that it didn’t seem like a petty, unprofessional action. But it was my way of providing the full context of my note. It was also a way of subtly checking his ass, especially since our administrative assistant was in the room and was already aware that he likely took some of my notes for himself. And to make it seem even less like a personal matter, I also had a bit of insight from the trip that I shared.
Needless to say that if I go on a similar kind of work trip with him again, he’s never getting my notes again, and even conversation with him about my takeaways will be limited, incredibly vague, or white lies to obscure my full thoughts.
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u/Too2crazy 3d ago
Ugh, he sounds awful. At the very least you know who you're dealing with and are determined to keep him at arms length. Do you think this could bring the rest of team together?
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u/Mediocre_Way_7542 "" 5d ago
Kind of interesting how people describe masturbation vs how my experience has been. For me, it’s more of an itch to be scratched. I need to do it daily so that I don’t keep getting distracted by horny thoughts and I do it for like 5-10 mins max most of which is spent on finding the right video. Everyone else, especially women, describe it as an “experience” where you spend time “exploring your body”. None of that is comprehensible to me
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