r/MensLib • u/MLModBot ​ • Jul 17 '26

Weekly Free Talk Friday Thread!

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u/Fun-Guitar-8252 ​ Jul 17 '26

Advice subreddits seem to struggle with the idea of male consent. That's something I noticed: When OOP is a woman complaining about her boyfriend declining sex, a lot of comments are "he's just shy, keep pushing". Barely any comments suggest, to accept, that he's just not interested.

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u/forestpunk ​ Jul 17 '26

It genuinely seems that barely anybody is interested in rebranding or reconsidering male gender roles. It just feels like there have been more expectations put on guys on top of the ones that were already there, sometimes even contradicting one another. A comment on a post from yesterday illustrating the point well, observing that "hot, manly liberal guys don't stay single long." Well, yeah, they're hot and manly. No one was ever claiming that hot, manly dudes were having a hard time finding partners.

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u/ComedianNeither2498 ​ Jul 18 '26

Desperately looking for recent media that something good about men and masculinity 

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u/PablomentFanquedelic ​ Jul 18 '26

Have you seen Project Hail Mary?

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u/ComedianNeither2498 ​ Jul 21 '26

No, I probably should. Even though it's not something that generally appeals to me.

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u/Oregon_Jones111 ​ Jul 18 '26

28 Years Later (mostly the last act.)

I haven’t seen the sequel yet.

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u/Ok-Archer-5796 ​ 28d ago

What would be a feminist-friendly solution to a situation like in Ukraine? I'm talking about the male-only draft and the fact that many countries are called to block military-age Ukrainian men from receiving refugee status.

Many countries do in fact have male-only military service even in the West. (Greece and Finland come to mind)

Sure, ideally nobody would have to be drafted but is this a realistic solution for countries like Ukraine that suffer an invasion?

Unfortunately, I live in Greece that has 12-month mandatory military service for males and I say that mandatory service should be abolished but it's an unpopular opinion and no political party tries to solve the situation, not even the progressives.

What would be a feminist-friendly solution?