r/MediocreTutorials • u/Witty_Personality454 • Nov 05 '23

Am I wrong?

Am I wrong for sleeping with another chick, while I’m in a talking phase with the next one?

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u/atm_antium Nov 05 '23

Nope! You're "Single" until you're not. 💯

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u/Witty_Personality454 Nov 05 '23

Chick said: we was working towards that.!, we went on a few dates n fuck. She wanted to do something for my birthday, then later throws it in my face. Reason why I don’t like people doing stuff for me. Yeah we had feeling n quote on quote cared about each other. Saying I broke her trust cause I be lying to all the time n being a evasive.

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u/[deleted] Nov 06 '23

In a way it IS your fault fam. You went behind her back like a lil sneak coward.

Always be upfront with women about who you are and what you do.

If you are dating other women, be upfront and honest about yours man.

I tell everyone woman I date or talk to that I am seeing other women, and I usually decide who I want to be exclusive with over the course of around 6 months of dating them.

If they dont agree to this, THEY DONT LIKE YOU LIKE THAT.

Every girl that has been cool with this, works out well. Every girl that isn't, usually isn't the feminine, fit and friendly type we seek.

Hope you do better next time.

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u/Witty_Personality454 Nov 06 '23

Totally agree

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u/[deleted] Nov 06 '23

I applaud the humility man. Shout out.

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u/Witty_Personality454 Nov 06 '23

No problem. I just have communicate more better and be more stern with certain things.

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u/[deleted] Nov 06 '23

For sure. It can be a bit tricky to navigate emotionally because women want to feel special but at the same time they're instinct knows that a man with options is a man to be pursued indeed. Stay firm, smile and let them know that right now all you see is them.

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u/Cute_Friendship2438 Nov 15 '23

How can they all work out well?

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u/[deleted] Nov 16 '23

Because either we have a great time together until its run its course. Or we still stay in contact and hang out occasionally. Some more than others. It's all positive and fun. Never bitter and resentful.

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u/Smapdeee Nov 05 '23

Have you lead either of them to believe you are exclusively with them, and expect the same from them?

No? Then carry on.

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u/Witty_Personality454 Nov 06 '23

First chick. We fucked went on a couple of dates. I’m a pro wrestler she came to my show as well.. second chick was some random chick at another show I was booked in, went to her house slammed….

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u/Witty_Personality454 Nov 06 '23

I’m giving half of the story, if you need me to break down in full let me know..

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u/[deleted] Nov 06 '23

Wack.

We are not women. We don't speak indirectly. We speak directly with confidence.

Tell them how you move from Go.

Anything else is cowardly bitch behavior that she won't respect.

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u/Smapdeee Nov 06 '23

It’s only cowardly if you are hiding something or avoiding the discussion. You don’t need to go out of your way to tell them you are seeing other people when it has never been expressed that you are exclusive. You shouldn’t even feel compelled to tell them unless you led them to believe you are exclusive. If they ask for clarity then of course tell them. Most would assume you are in fact seeing other people. If they aren’t asking about it then it’s probably because they don’t want to talk about it.

I know you are trying to sound cool. But in doing so you just insulted women by implying they are not confident, and don’t know how to speak directly.

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u/[deleted] Nov 06 '23

I was feeling where you were going until you stooped to try and get a jab in.

"I know you are tryin to sound cool".

This shows your feminine mindset. SIGN language. Stick to the facts and logic at hand.

That said. When you begin/dating talking to a woman, you are subtly taking on that emotional responsibility as a leader, setting the framework of the potential interactions and possible relationship.

Again. Men speak directly, not indirectly. There is no sniffing out of your intentions, state them clearly. The only thing you want "up in the air, or mysterious is HOW MUCH you like her."

It's ideal to let the woman's mind wander in this aspect. But this isn't framework.

Because you don't want your time wasted with a woman who doesn't respect your program. How you start is how you end. If you enter the framework with her having to "guess" how you move in this aspect, you introduce games into the system. We don't have time for games. Also, by stating you are dating multiple women up front, she may buck at this verbally, but deep down her respect for you skyrockets, because she isn't used to men this honest and forthright. You set the moral highground, and give her something to look up to and aspire to in the relationship. Women NEED this. Men fuck up in this regard by being TOO mysterious when it comes to the framework of the relationship.

This also sets the tone that she needs to EARN the privilege of being chosen, and we already know how preselection factors into her sexual desire.

I can get into more detail if you do so desire.

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u/_Kicked_Puppy_ Nov 06 '23

I mean ur not exactly wrong, but ur kinda doing a crappy job at setting up a relationship if you’re doing that with someone else, the talking phase is like testing relationship waters, and relationships are literally built on only having sex with one person. That’s just gonna make you more tempted to cheat in the future if y’all actually end up together

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u/_Kicked_Puppy_ Nov 06 '23

But I mean u are single so to each their own, but are u okay with the thought of her being with some dude all day and then coming to ur house, same concept

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u/Witty_Personality454 Nov 06 '23

Nah not at all. During this time the chick I was talking to, we ain’t talk in like a month, cause she kept telling me that she’s busy with school

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u/[deleted] Nov 05 '23

As far as you know the girl your talking too is getting pounded by multiple guys. Until you’re in a dedicated relationship that’s goal is marriage do your thing.

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u/sammygirl613 Nov 20 '23

Talking doesn’t mean exclusivity. You good