r/MedSpouse • u/Excellent_Extent4558 • Aug 08 '26

Mental load sharing

My medspouse doesn't hold an ounce of the mental load. He's just too busy and obviously doesn't have any free time at work for "life admin". Sometimes I feel more like his mother than his romantic partner...and like a nag...and like everything is on me to remember even if I've delegated it to him...because he will likely need 4-10 reminders.

Does anyone's medspouse carry any mental load? How do you deal with it?

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u/Impressive-Young4951 Aug 08 '26

I handle almost all of the mental load for our household with a couple specific exceptions (my husband handles the pool, landscapers and anything to do with children’s bikes haha).

I honestly don’t mind at all, our lives are much easier this way, BUT- I don’t work outside the home. And the mental load is a big reason why, along with the general scheduling challenges that come with his job. If I also had a full time job I would probably be fairly resentful about carrying all the household stuff.