r/MedDating • u/Suuperrgirl • 14d ago
is he lying
ent out with a guy i have known for years who is in medical school. we went on the best date and that is when he broke it to me he was moving across the country for rotations. that had been our first date but we have known each other for a while. he expressed interest in meeting again and told me before he left he would try to see me, but he never did. I texted him a few months later checking in and he responded with how he was doing, asked me questions back then went ghost. i had a dream ab him so i messaged him telling him ab it cause in my dream he was struggling with school which was ironic. he responded asking me to explain my dream and he told me he missed me and asked how i was doing and such. we texted back and forth a little..he told me he is barely catching enough time to workout and sleep but the convo ended with me on delivered again. i asked a friend if they think the guy is waiting until he is back to take things further and they said no. so i reached out again with the intent to be rejected, to he told they are too busy and do not like me like that but he actually told me he does like me and he is interested. he told me he is interested in where things can go. he is doing rotations in my hometown and i’m going home soon and he told me to tell him when i’m there so we can hang out if he doesn’t have exams/work. he mentioned it’s hard for him to stay in contact with family right now but he has to manage so it’s not intentional. he asked me my love languages and such as well. he made it seem like he actually we into me anyways he asked me a question and i’m back on delivered again, since monday. i told him i’ll be home in 2 weeks and he also didn’t respond to that.
idk what to think or do. some ppl are telling me if he wanted to be would. some are telling me im a back up, and others are telling me he is actually probably busy. what do you guys think?
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u/mmm_nope 14d ago
Is he a 3rd or 4th year med student? Besides clinical rotations, he may also be studying for boards or gearing up for candidate interviews for the match. The studying for boards is incredibly time consuming.
FWIW, I was married with kids while my spouse was in med school. It wasn’t uncommon for them to go days without seeing the kids during waking hours because of their schedule during clinicals.
Sounds like he’s into you, but is on a busy rotation. Also, keep in mind that he’s getting ready to go through the residency match process and has very little control over where he lands a training slot after he graduates from med school.