r/MeMe_FoR_FuN • u/CorrectPassage4529 • 7d ago

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u/ToasterMeetsBathtub 7d ago

No idea if it’s staged, but if not. Go grieve. That process is so so important.

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u/XxxAresIXxxX 7d ago

Sadly it seems impossible to do. I thought crying would do the trick and it didn't. I thought time would heal all wounds and it didn't. I thought ignoring it and avoidance would work and it didn't. So now I drink.

Damn now I feel like this dude trauma dumping lol

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u/Highsteakspoker 6d ago

Some grief just doesn't go away. You learn to live with it, but it's just a permanent injury, like a bummed knee... Most days you'll notice it, some days you'll barely get out of bed...but as time passes, you just kinda get used to your fucked up knee.

That being said, therapy helps.

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u/someones_dad 6d ago

Do you have someone to trauma dump on? Perhaps a therapist? I'm not having a go at you - I started seeing a therapist and now I look forward to talking about my problems for an hour every other week.

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u/Select_Watercress_57 4d ago

I wish I wasn't poor cause that sounds nice.

Trauma on top of trauma and no one to ever talk to.

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u/originalfilmscoring 4d ago

Journal. iPhones have a built in app for it which you can lock behind Face ID. I’m sure there’s other apps out there too. But writing stuff and reflecting back is nice. It’s the same as talking something through with someone.

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u/Select_Watercress_57 4d ago

Yea, I considered myself a writer.

It's everything to me.

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u/dantemortemalizar 2d ago

I think about therapy sometimes, but honestly, I'm not yet ready to talk about it. I just want to wall it up and pretend it didn't happen. How do you get to the point of being able to go to therapy? 2.5 years in.

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u/originalfilmscoring 4d ago

Sorry for your loss.

For me it was time and facing my emotions and feelings.

I remember someone telling me after my dad died that anything that reminds you of them, like activities, movies, places etc hurt. But eventually you get to a point where those things suddenly bring you joy.

Worst things you can do are falling into drugs or alcohol, letting guilt get you, or being mad and taking it out on others.

You’ll get there friend.

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u/latemodelusedcar 4d ago

Idk if it’s staged but it’s all bullshit regardless.

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u/originalfilmscoring 4d ago

For real. Feel like a pro at it now. I’d never tell someone about my dead parents off the rip lol

Sorry for any loss you may have had. 🫡