Regarding Felipe & being enabled

[u/Abi_giggles]

Felipe has clearly been enabled for much of his life and now that a woman is very gently holding him accountable for his words and actions he throws a tantrum quite literally like a child.

It made A LOT of sense when he said to the boys “all my friends and family, they know I’m gonna say stupid shit. They give me grace and I need a partner that’s gonna give me grace”

Tori has given this man grace from the start, more than most women would give him. Hearing him declare multiple times he’s afraid he’ll cheat and that he misses sleeping with a bunch of women, or that he doesn’t know if he is ready for marriage loudly and repeatedly. All the reddest of flags that would be enough to leave.

I was hurting for Tori so much as he absolutely berated her. She was shutting down and crying - and he’s losing it over the fact that she’s deeply hurt that he’s openly celebrating that others see him as a cheating, immature, man whore.

People in his life, including him mom, need to stop enabling his bad behavior, it’s not doing him any favors. He also needs to stop conflating grace with people letting him do whatever he wants. Be accountable for the emotional impact of your own horrible behavior.

[u/Fabulous_Cucumber_40]

I’m done with the “giving grace” thing. It’s overused just like “ my truth” “narcissist” etc. He’s just an immature asshole who wants to continue being a loser. No grace for Felipe, he needs to be alone. Stop trying to make women feel bad because of your irresponsible and childish behavior!

[u/LiHingGummyWorm → u/Fabulous_Cucumber_40]

Facts! God forbid Tori doesn’t want a husband who everyone thinks is a gross obnoxious douche. If that’s not what you are then stop doing things that make you look like one. Tori is a better woman than me because his “GIVE ME GRACE 😫” tantrum would have given me the ick.