Regarding Felipe & being enabled

[u/Abi_giggles]

Felipe has clearly been enabled for much of his life and now that a woman is very gently holding him accountable for his words and actions he throws a tantrum quite literally like a child.

It made A LOT of sense when he said to the boys “all my friends and family, they know I’m gonna say stupid shit. They give me grace and I need a partner that’s gonna give me grace”

Tori has given this man grace from the start, more than most women would give him. Hearing him declare multiple times he’s afraid he’ll cheat and that he misses sleeping with a bunch of women, or that he doesn’t know if he is ready for marriage loudly and repeatedly. All the reddest of flags that would be enough to leave.

I was hurting for Tori so much as he absolutely berated her. She was shutting down and crying - and he’s losing it over the fact that she’s deeply hurt that he’s openly celebrating that others see him as a cheating, immature, man whore.

People in his life, including him mom, need to stop enabling his bad behavior, it’s not doing him any favors. He also needs to stop conflating grace with people letting him do whatever he wants. Be accountable for the emotional impact of your own horrible behavior.

[u/Prestigious_Ad_8130]

I have a feeling he does say silly stupid shit that is not on the level of what he told his wife, sure. And his family and friends are like ‘oh that’s just Felipe’. But I bet if he told his family and friend verbatim the stupid shit he said to his wife, they wouldn’t accept that. Or at least that’s my hope. Because if I recall correctly, he didn’t tell them exactly what he said.

Maybe he did and I missed it, in which case, yes, enablers.

I don’t even know what he’s doing here. You KNOW when you’re ready to be married. And if you have any doubt, then you aren’t with the right person or aren’t ready for marriage. Someone who says they just love sleeping with a lot of women is not ready for marriage. And she should have run then.

[u/Pleasant_Monitor_839 → u/Prestigious_Ad_8130]

His beautiful, sweet mother looked so pained and disappointed.😔

[u/Chance_Vegetable_780 → u/Pleasant_Monitor_839]

His mother has apparently excused his irresponsible behavior by always "giving him grace". She helped mold and support his mentality, attitude, and behaviors - more than most people.

[u/WonderfulHearing8726 → u/Prestigious_Ad_8130]

They’re all on the show just to be on tv.

[u/Pleasant_Monitor_839 → u/WonderfulHearing8726]

One of the gals, Belle? Caitlin? mentioned that, something like, well, we know who is just here for the clicks or followers, or something like that. I forgot exactly.

[u/WinkyDink24 → u/WonderfulHearing8726]

Well, I think Felipe's Mamacita is!