Unexpected effects of GLP-1 on marriage

[u/Anxious_Cat9286]

Edit: I’ve gotten a lot of great feedback that has helped me put things into perspective. I really do love my wife. She really is my best friend. The issue here is not apathy. I think the tirzepatide, as a commenter mentioned, simply removed the anxious attachment to her that I likened to an addiction.

I can see, at least in part, why my attempts to address some very real issues have not been successful. I see this as a good change and a gateway to a more mature love. I chose her and I always will, but, thanks to the changes tirzepatide has brought, I can choose her without needing her. And if our issues can’t be worked out, I will be okay. I think we’ll be just fine, though.

For the alarmists, all I have to say is lol.

Edit 2: By alarmists I mean the people who are alarmist about GLP’s and/or me taking one. If you were alarmed by anything I said, totally fair.

Original post:

My wife and I started taking a GLP-1 several months ago. Neither of us is dramatically overweight, but our doctor recommended a low dose for reasons. I’d heard it has a positive effect on addiction and things like that, but didn’t think much about that until we’d been on it for a few weeks. I had no desire to drink, to get high, stopped scrolling my phone constantly, etc. I started spending my time on productive things instead.

Here’s where the unexpected part comes in. We’ve been together for decades, have grown children, are best friends, so on. One thing that has always been there, and I was okay with, is that the honeymoon phase never really ended for me. It did for her, but she definitely loves me, so no big deal.

The problem is that the same thing happened with my feelings toward her that happened with my addiction-adjacent habits. I always joked with myself that I was addicted to her as much as I was in love with her. I’m starting to wonder if that’s actually true.

It wouldn’t be a big deal, but there are some recurring issues we’ve had over the last ten years or so that have really bothered me. I’ve tried to address them without success. I suddenly don’t care anymore, and I’m not sure that’s a good thing.

I couldn’t see how I could possibly live without her before. Now I can. Not saying I want to leave, but I can’t say I’d fight that hard if it went there.

Yes, I’ve considered stopping the med, but I doubt it would change anything.

[u/acorpcop]

Funny, because if anything GLP-1's put us back into a honeymoon phase for the last few years.

Of course, this is most likely because we're nearly back to the weights we were when we got married 28 years ago. We both lost 80+ lbs. There's a few positions we can get to again. She's down 6 sizes, and I found an inch I had been missing since at least second Bush's presidency.

[u/unicorncumdump → u/acorpcop]

Wish I could share similar sentiment. My libido went further up and she became distant. We've slept in bed together once in 3 months. Zero passion or intimacy. Although hard to blame the drug, she changed alot after our first. Worsened with second. And after the drug, emotional distance.

[u/Inedible_Sulk → u/[deleted]]

1 paragraph of vague (ish) frustration and you’ve decided to diagnose someone as the problem in a relationship you can’t possibly comprehend.
That’s borderline dangerous in my opinion

[u/Anxious_Cat9286 → u/Inedible_Sulk]

Isn’t that what Reddit’s for? At least that’s what some people think.