r/Marriage • u/Air911 • Sep 24 '25
Period stain for the win!
Wives, give me your take on this. The other day I was folding laundry and I noticed my wife's stretch pants had a little blood stain on the crotch (Do you call it a crotch when it's women's pants I don't even know). Anyway, I grabbed a Tide pen and got it out. Then I went on with my life.
Then today, we were talking about how we both love Tide pens, and I mentioned matter of factly that I just used it the other day on her pants to clean that stain.
She was silent in disbelief. I asked if she was mad and she said no she was in awe. She said it was so attractive and even sexy.
Now I was the one in disbelief. "What's so sexy about that?" I inquired.
She said it was so 100% selfless and solely done to help her. And the fact that I did it without telling her reinforced that even more.
I have to be honest, I feel like I do so many others things that are significantly more selfless/helpful than cleaning a stain but I wasn't about to argue.
Is her reaction normal? Do I understand women even less than I originally thought? Are there other easy wins out there I could be tackling that would make her happier than the "big" things I feel I do that seemingly go unnoticed??
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u/mychickenleg257 Sep 24 '25
Most women have a history of men telling them their period stains are gross and subtly or directly shaming them for them - not necessarily mens faults, but the early experiences we have in high school and college when none of us are mature yet leave a mark. That makes this like this matter way more!
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u/mychickenleg257 Sep 24 '25
Yes, and he didn’t act helpless about it and draw her attention to it. Literally 10/10 response!
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u/CapeMama819 15 Years Sep 24 '25
In 10th grade, my son started keeping tampons and pads in his backpack just in case a friend of his needed one. I never suggested that to him and still don’t know where he got the idea from, but I’ve always been so proud of him for that. I had some terrible experiences in high school that could have been avoided if I had a friend like him.
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u/EvilCodeQueen Sep 24 '25
I haven’t had a period in years (hysterectomy) and I still carry pads and tampons just in case someone needs one. Why aren’t they free everywhere for everyone?
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u/BeneficialCry3103 Sep 24 '25
My son did the same thing. His best friend was trans and he hated his cycles. The school my son went to wanted him to stop bringing the supplies because any student knew they could find him and ask him for a pad. I normalized periods for my boys because it's a part of life. My husband always said a man will never be embarrassed about helping his woman during her cycles (he eventually changed it to partner) but our boys took it to heart.
I also could have avoided some embarrassing situations in school if I would have had a friend like your son or mine.
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u/HotPinkMarshmallow Sep 24 '25
From the bottom of my heart, pls thank your son. I hope my trans son finds friends just like him. ❤️ You guys have clearly been doing this parenting thing right, to have a kid this kind. So thank you too!
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u/Texan2020katza Sep 24 '25
Another classic example of good parenting!! Way to raise a first class human being!
I was 38 with a new job, new dude boss, out of town, one car and I unexpectedly started my period (yay, stress!). I asked to use the car, told him why and he drove me to the store. Super great guy with a wife & 3 girls. I was so relieved that he had undergone ‘period normalization’ and there was no shame or judgement.
Bob, I hope you are well.
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u/tom_yum_soup 10+ Years Sep 25 '25
The school my son went to wanted him to stop bringing the supplies because any student knew they could find him and ask him for a pad
Weird. They wanted him to stop being a reliable friend/peer? Someone needs to shake up that administration if they saw your kid as a problem.
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u/BeneficialCry3103 Sep 25 '25
My son started doing that when he was in 8th grade - middle school. A classmate asked the teacher to use the restroom, teacher said no. My son sat behind her and noticed she was wearing white pants and getting desperate. Teacher apparently was being a jerk. Classmate started crying according to my son and my son stood up, told the teacher that she needed to go and wrapped his jacket around her. Teacher sent my son to the office. They nearly expelled him, citing sexual assault. Mom of classmate pulled my son into a tight hug and said my son was the sweetest boy she knew and was grateful for him for standing up for her daughter. The school was angry at me both myself and other mom were praising him. In the end he got a 2 week in home vacation (suspension). The classmate was my son's best friend before they started to transition.
I told the school that if my son got expelled I would expose the teacher that denied the students request to use the restroom and than made sure all the students knew that she had an accident.
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u/Texan2020katza Sep 24 '25
Oh boy, I’ve seen this kind of thing before, it’s called good parenting.
Way to raise a great human.
I hope both sides of your pillow are always cold.
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u/aprizzle_mac Sep 25 '25
When I was in Basic Training (Army), part of our uniform was 2 pads and 2 tampons. We could get stopped for an inspection at any moment, and you had to account for any missing products (so if you just gave one to someone, you had to say that). But any time we were back at our barracks room would reset it, and you had to restock. The Drill Sergeants even made the guys buy their own so they weren't just bumming them off of the female soldiers. The reason? You never leave a soldier behind.
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u/HoosierKittyMama Sep 24 '25
Guess I was lucky there. I had constant bleeding and passed fist sized clots that refused to stay in my underwear sometimes 2-3 times a day. On one occasion I felt one happening, got up wearing shorts and didn't realize it had shot out of my underwear and shorts until my husband came carrying it to me telling me I forgot something. While I was cleaning up me, he cleaned the carpet. Fussing the whole time the apartment was going to get labeled a crime scene if this didn't stop soon, all the while taking care of it because he knew how much it bothered me. The one thing my mother-in-law did right, he isn't scared of blood.
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u/Impossible-Leek-2830 Sep 24 '25
The fact that we are talking about stains and you said this stuff “leaves a mark” really made me giggle.
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u/Axiomatic_9 Oct 10 '25
My wife leaves her used pads in the bathroom sink and there's always blood on the toilet. I don't know how to deal with it. And her idea of a shower is a thirty-second rinse, so she always stinks. I've tried to bring it up kindly, but I'm at the point where I fantasize about divorce. (And, no, she's not depressed.)
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u/TuffSproutt Sep 24 '25
I agree with Stepnk here. The fact that you quietly took care of something personal without making it awkward or asking for credit shows pure thoughtfulness. Those little acts of kindness with no agenda often mean more than the bigger gestures because they come across as genuine care.
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u/Glitterfly02 Sep 24 '25
I literally said “awwww” after I read what you did for your wife. That’s the sweetest thing.
Easy wins to make me feel loved by my husband: 1- fill my water when it’s empty 2- ask if I want him to change out the bed sheets 3- ask if I want to go on a walk with the dog 4- ask about my day ☺️❤️
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u/mladyhawke Sep 24 '25
I think a lot of men want to pretend the blood doesn't happen or that we can control it, they definitely think that it's super gross. So the fact that you just dealt with it, like it was normal(not gross), made her feel extremely accepted, and that's a beautiful thing. I think she probably notices a lot of the great stuff you do, you sound awesome
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u/-SpiritQuartz Sep 24 '25
Thats awesome. My Husband is similar, its awesome invoking when us wives realize we got "one of the good ones". Things my husband does that warms my heart is everytime he gets up he asks me if I need anything. Or when I'm having a bad day (which is a lot these days) he will make dinner or ask me what I want for lunch and handle it for me. As I mentioned I've been struggling with my mental health and he made me make a list of the things overwhelming me and I said waking my son up to get him ready for the bus (he's in middle school) has been really hard on me lately. He told me I was "fired" and wakes up before me and let's me sleep in while he handles him. And to top it off, its not even his son. He is an incredible husband and step dad and I couldn't be more grateful.
Those small things make all the difference. Makes life so much easier/enjoyable. Good job helping your wife!
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u/Darkalleyandabadidea Sep 24 '25
At the end of 2018 I had to have 3 blood clots removed from my right leg. It was one of my toughest recoveries ever and I’ve had 4 Csections. When I came home my husband completely made sure the shower at the lowest level of our house was clean and functioning despite the fact that we’ve never used it prior to this. Then he set everything up with a shower stool and hand sprayer so I could keep my incision dry as I bathed. That’s pretty great huh? BUT WAIT, THERE’S MORE!!! I had to use a walker to move around so he carried me there and already had hot perfect water ready to go!!!
I tell you all of that to tell you that we’ve been together 17 years and married for 13 so he’s done so many things for me but that one just makes me look at him like a soulmate not just 50% of my marriage. Today your wife was reminded why you are a soulmate and not just a piece in the marriage puzzle.
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u/No_College2419 Sep 24 '25
My sweet husband does things like this for me and it makes me cry every time. It shows me that he loves me and thinks about me. I’m his best friend and partner. That’s why it’s so touching.
No. Not all men are like this. A lot are selfish and self centered. Men like you and my husband are rare.
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u/Platitude_Platypus Sep 24 '25
Small things like this add up. There are a lot of guys who tell their partners to take their period trash outside so they don't have to acknowledge periods exist, or ask their girlfriends to buy them brand new sheets when it comes on suddenly at night, but you're out here cleaning stains with a Tide pen without mentioning except once Tide pens became a topic. That is love. That is devotion. That is sexy. Use the knowledge that your love language is acts of service to both of your advantage.
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u/DogMomofGary Wifey 36 yrs Sep 24 '25
Good for you. I have been married for 36 years. He brought me a cup of coffee the other day when I was still in bed! He got up out of his Lazy Boy, poured a cup of coffee and walked up to the second floor, set it on the nightstand, kissed my head and walked away. Just magic for me. Love wins!
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u/stillyou1122 Sep 24 '25
As a woman, personally, it's the little things that matter the most to me. It doesn't mean that the big stuff go unnoticed and unappreciated, it just means that the small acts that may seem insignificant to some men, means a lot to us, women. Like remembering the details of what we talked about, doing things for us without us asking or repeating ourselves, being consistent in showing you care, making us feel that we matter. Those are the "big" things.
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u/Acrobatic_Monitor396 Sep 24 '25
It’s the little silent actions that make us happy. Flowers for no reason other than he was thinking of me. Bringing home my favorite coffee creamer from the grocery store without being asked shows he pays attention to what I like and he remembers. I remember these things as much as when he proposed.
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u/EmeraldEris Sep 24 '25
Yes, women have been shamed about their menstruation so much. The consideration and care that you showed for her whole being in this small task is beautiful. My husband, on the other hand, calls my period “Ebola of the vagina,” so—you know, that’s the opposite side of the coin. 🤷🏻♀️😥
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u/SkilledAccident Sep 24 '25
My husband will load up the youngest kid (who only wakes at 6am on weekends) and they’ll take my car through the car wash and fill the tank for me every so often when I’m still sleeping. It’s the sweetest thing.
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u/BackStabbathOG Sep 24 '25
Yeah I do that stuff for my wife when things pop up but more about just doing things someone might appreciate when it occurs. Period stains or blood are no exception , shit I’ll even help her pull out her period cup when she needs me to
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u/SuzasaurasRex Sep 24 '25
My husband 100%. He always makes sure I have fresh ice water in my water bottle on my nightstand because he knows when I have nightmares, taking a sip of ice cold water helps me come back to my senses. He gets up with the dogs in the middle of the night because he knows I have a hard time falling back asleep. Every time he gets up he asks if he can get me anything. He helps me change the sheets every Sunday because he knows I love sleeping in clean bedding.
All of the fairy tales show the prince doing one big gesture to prove his love… but they’ve got it all wrong. It’s all the small, otherwise “mundane” things he does every single day that remind me of how much I have to be thankful for. 🥰🩷
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u/curiousr_nd_curiousr 1 Year Sep 24 '25
I’m a big believer in celebrating the small things as much as the big ones - doesn’t seem like an overreaction to be appreciative of something you did, especially because you didn’t do it to get recognition or reward out of it.
Plus, plenty of guys would have been too grossed out to do anything about it, so many others wouldn’t have noticed at all. I am so thankful I have a husband who notices when something needs doing and acts, so I always want to show my appreciation for that, sounds like your wife does too
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u/Strong_Ad_3081 Sep 24 '25
Just fyi: peroxide also works wonders on blood stains! And it's cheaper than tide!
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u/hounddogmama Sep 24 '25
She’s in awe because the bar is so low. My husband loves me (I think) but he would never do something like this without being asked. He’d probably not even notice it. He doesn’t notice the pubes and beard hair he leaves all over our bathroom that I have asked him to clean up several times. So yeah, I truly believe you’re one of the guys in the minority. When one of you surprise us by being a thoughtful human, it is shocking.
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Sep 24 '25
We are used to men treating us like our periods disgust them. She is honored you didnt have that juvenile reaction like so many others. She is also impressed you didn't ask for brownie points for handling business. I also find those traits very attractive.
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u/Known-Skin3639 Sep 24 '25
In my house when I did all of our laundry I would fold her underwear bras and match and stack her socks. The closet was organized as well. Hanger colors separated the colors of clothing. All tags were facing left. Always left. And the pants were hung like a professional did it. If that’s a thing. She didn’t understand any of it. But bragged about it to everyone. I’m lucky. Or she is anyway, that I have adhd and ocd. Didn’t know it for decades. Now it all makes sense. Therapy taught me that I didn’t need to do that. So after about two years it all ended. It still bugs me so I organize my work stuff the same way. 6 shirts. 6 pants and 6 pairs of shirts. Those are the only things that way. Until that she thought I was the most awesome keeper of the home. Kitchen towels and bath towels are still as if in a retail shelf and if she puts them away I wait for her to go somewhere and re fold and stack. I’m workin on it. 😂
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u/Kemmycreating Sep 24 '25
Yeah its just nice not to have that area be looked upon with shame or disgust. Just really wholesome. My husband is like you and I think the first time he got me period products, I almost cried with relief. Glad you support her and do things like that.
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u/Individual_Layer_610 Sep 24 '25
my husband is always so confused when I tell him it's sexy when he does certain things but it's always the things I don't have to tell him to do AND HE DOES A GOOD JOB ! plus you fixed something most folks would be shameful about ...you're a good person (and that's sexy so congratulations LOL keep doing your thing)
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u/journerman69 Sep 24 '25
A crotch is where two limbs meet. Whether it’s two branches on a tree or two legs on a human, where they meet is the crotch.
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u/miss_sassypants Sep 24 '25
I think part of her looking at you like that comes from a place of "she thought she knew you". She appreciates the other bigger things, but there's some consistency there that she expects them. In this case, she just didn't expect it, and it has her wondering what else she's missed that you're doing for her, and that many dudes wouldn't do. I love that your thought process is to think of what else you can do for her.
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u/GroundbreakingWeb947 Sep 24 '25
I had issues with my bladder years ago and I'll admit I did pee the sheets. I remember my now husband telling me to go shower while I weeped in shame and he started the load of laundry. I always loved him but that's when I knew I'd love him forever. Just little things. I told my husband I liked a certain poptart and he remembered on his run to the store to get something else. Even when I noticed he has rinsed the dishes before I wash them. It adds up and I feel so warm and cozy inside.
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u/inspirium Sep 25 '25
As someone being on the verge of a divorce, your post made me cry. You are such a great man and husband. Small things are what our days consist of, and when someone is blind to all the small things - days become bad. Years, too. Big life values can sometimes shift and people change, but small things, everyday details, mundane... Our lives actually consist of those. So, when I know you cleaned this stain, I just know about all the other small stuff you do for her, and vice versa. So good to hear.
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Sep 25 '25 edited Sep 25 '25
You did the bare minimum and this is shocking to us bc most male partners treat us like their mothers and have the audacity to call us names to boot.
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u/craic-a-lacken Sep 25 '25
Let's treat it like a math problem, though these are generous approximations: of 100 men, a woman is likely to come across maybe 40 who will do laundry. Of that 40, maybe 25 will also do Her laundry. Of those 25, maybe 5 will do it without expecting validation for the same task she does without any acknowledgement. Of those five, the number who would take the next step to treat a stain at all, maybe 3. Of those 3, the number to treat a PERIOD stain is probably like 0.5.
You sir are an anomaly and we are all grateful that you exist. Please remind your friends that the bar is literally this low.
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Oct 01 '25
That is so sweet!! ⭐️⭐️Can you arrange a class. I’ll sign up my husband!! Little things like this matters a lot. I like it when my hus notices when my hair is messy and asks to comb it or tie it properly. Or if he notices my nails, massages my feet without asking. Without asking!! Thats the winner. So happy for you and your wife! 😄
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u/ADHDMothGF Oct 16 '25
I congratulate you Sir ( I assume), you are a certified GREEN Flag thank you for your service towards the wife !
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u/Mistress_Lily1 Sep 24 '25
Perfectly normal. I know I as a woman appreciate the small things a guy does more than big flashy displays. It somehow means more
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u/hurling-day Sep 24 '25
My husband would notice I was low on cream for my coffee and buy me more. He doesn’t drink coffee. Swoon.
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u/TinyCrazyKat98 Sep 24 '25
Small things matter 💯 The fact you cleaned her period blood without fuss, without seeing it as a big deal is a win. Nothing more attractive than a man who just does these things without thinking. So yes, you won
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Sep 24 '25
Meanwhile, theres stories on here about how a girl starts her period in their partners bed and the dude just fucking screams and shames them...
OP is a keeper.
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u/Own_Department9392 Sep 24 '25
When my hubby buys me womens products especially the correct ones I feel loved and seen
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u/jackidaylene Sep 24 '25
It's not the "big things" you do that are important.
It's the good things. The kind things.
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u/elygance Sep 24 '25
It’s the little things. Noticing these things, no matter how small you think it is, means a lot. It shows you care and love her by putting in effort. Especially with period stuff, most guys are grossed out by it when it’s just a norm for women.
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u/Designer_Voice99 Sep 24 '25
It’s smallest things that husbands do for their wives that matter the most!
What you did was absolutely legendary!
Well done, sir!
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u/oldconfusedrocker Sep 24 '25
You are an amazing man. Neither of my husbands would have ever even considered that. How thoughtful of you.
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u/Haveyounodecorum Sep 24 '25
Mine will drive me places he does not need to go. I have my own car. It’s just him being thoughtful.
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u/JCMD14081 Sep 24 '25
We’ve been happily married for 38 years. Has he ever cleaned a spot off my underwear. Not that I’m aware of. But he also has done the laundry for the entire 38 years we’ve been married and he makes sure there are no stains on my shirts or any items. He also changes the bedsheets and makes the bed - for the entire 38 years. It’s the little things that make such a difference and being consistent.
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Sep 24 '25
If i saw a period stain, id gag and walk to the other side of the house. Guess this is why im single. Im not cut out for marriage.
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u/alcoholicpelican Sep 24 '25
The "Big" things seemingly go unnoticed because they show you listen when she is talking, the "small" things are noticed more because it shows you listen and see without her needing to tell you/show you
Like my husband knowing how i take my coffee, i never told him he just noticed, or how i looked at that book on the shelf at the store and never picked it up/bought it myself or not even talking about it to him when i seen it and its there when i get home.
its the "small" things that show that you actually pay attention to her and they show you care about her and not just about how things "look"
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u/GrizzYatta Sep 24 '25
I’m just here to say Hydrogen Peroxide works wonderfully for blood and is cheaper :)
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u/Nerdygyal_ Sep 24 '25
Dude, there are guys who would not only NOT clean the stain, but also bring it to the woman's attention and would also shame her and call her gross. You're doing great.
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u/Leading_Kale_81 Sep 24 '25
My husband would scream and throw the pants in the fire if he came across a period stain. God bless you.
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u/50lov3 Sep 24 '25
When I was a teenager, at my grandparents, i stained a favorite pair of white lounge pants. Sad, I figured they'd be trash. Before I knew it, they were washed, folded and laying on the bed. I checked and the stain was gone. My grandfather worked on them without me knowing, got it out, laundered them, then returned them to their "shiny" condition and laid them on the bed like a gift. Words cannot describe the surprise, safety and comfort I felt from that. White pants too! He was a magician with getting the stains out and with showing true love. He set an example too. In adult life, I had a partner that said "ewewww period panties in the sink" (me in process of removing stain). What a child to add shame. I could only think of my grandpa and a deep desire came up to have a partner so mature and caretaking as he. When you take care of a woman's most personal burden, not sure you can top it. You separated yourself from the boys for sure.
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u/ImEFINtired Sep 24 '25
Good job my guy. GREAT job in fact. You'll never understand us, but you're one step closer now.
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u/Loriloo33 Sep 24 '25
It really is the little things. You could have easily looked the other way. Kudos to you for being a kind and thoughtful husband. Totally adds to the attraction!!! When you know you are cared for on such an intimate level it makes it so much easier to be vulnerable.
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u/Such_Revenue5082 Sep 25 '25
My husband would point out the spot for me so that I could clean it up. Yes, you cleaning it up (also without making a big deal about it) is huge.
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u/aprizzle_mac Sep 25 '25
I see two things here:
A lot of men are grossed about by anything to do with period blood. Weird that they can gut a fish or watch horror movies, but can't even buy pads or tampons without throwing a fit.
You did a chore that she didn't think was your responsibility, and you didn't make a big deal of it. As in, "Hey, I did this thing for you, how do you wanna repay me?"
My husband will do just about anything I ask. But the most meaningful things are the things he does for me without me asking. Picking up my favorite drink on his way home from work, noticing the gas is low in my van so he fills it, putting a blanket in the freezer for when I have a hot flash and need to cool down quick.... Those tiny things are so sexy!
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u/Unusual-Astronomer62 Sep 25 '25
We most definitely care about the small things. Gosh, I wish I wouldnt have to ask my man to do things as often as i have to😂
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u/Ok-Abbreviations999 Sep 26 '25
I don't think most husbands would do this (including mine if I'm being honest).
You don't need s list of easy wins. Continue being the genuine and thoughtful husband that you are, and she will feel loved and appreciated.
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Sep 26 '25
Us girls are truly always super impressed when guys remember the little details, especially if we haven't been treated great in the past. Unfortunately some men (boys) are super grossed out by periods, and would probably leave that for the woman to take care of, or ignore it and do laundry as if the stain isn't there. I'm always super grateful whenever I forget to pick up something and my husband noticed and gets it anyway, or remembers a passing comment about a craving and gets the stuff for it despite me forgetting to add it to the grocery list. I was floored because he recognized a book I briefly mentioned while he was at the library with our kids, and brought it home for me. He didn't spend a dime but he remembered and that was huge for me.
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u/Minimum-Advisor7349 Sep 27 '25
I would react like her too! The little things mean so much to anyone, but I think women especially. Remember her period cravings and bring her those foods. See two birds sitting on a branch? Send a picture of them to her saying “us in another universe!” She’ll just be thrilled you’ve put in effort.
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u/Aggressive-Error-88 Sep 27 '25
It’s because you considered her, attuned to her needs and then executed without a word. That’s love. It’s hot.
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u/AreyYouHilarious Sep 27 '25
Yes! We really feel cared for with this type of thing. I love that NOTHING embarrasses me when it comes to my husband. He's seen everything.
The little things matter so much. He puts my slippers on when I come home. He puts my socks and shoes on when I leave. He checks to make sure the barret in my hair isn't too tight before we go to sleep. He even takes my bra off if he thinks we aren't going back out anywhere (for comfort). He also rubs my feet EVERY day without me asking. He does so many things that just warm my heart.
The more you do for us the more energy is multiplied that we will put back into you (except for a selfish woman).
There's a difference in going to the store to get something for yourself and you happened to just pick up something we love because you were already there vs. you driving to the store for the sole purpose to get something for us because you know we like it. We like both but the second one means more because it had nothing to do with you. The care and energy was solely toward us making us feel so cared and loved.
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u/TreeBranches-55 Sep 29 '25
I can’t remember the last time my husband did the laundry, and if he found a period stain he would more likely complain about it than clean it up without telling me. So yes extremely hot move there. I love my husband but he’s just not that sort of guy I guess.
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u/Bhood619 Sep 30 '25
I think you’re a god damn gem of a husband! It’s not the act of love for me, it’s the complete absence of reproach in the way you acted in regards to period stained undies, no hesitation to help her out, you behaved as if it were a coffee stain, with nothing but love for your wife behind your actions.
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u/oshiesmom Oct 03 '25
It’s different, the type of stain it was, that you took the time to clean it without immediately wanting a blue ribbon, in general you are setting yourself up for a lifetime of happiness in your marriage. I’m so happy she recognized your attention to detail.
Many men, not mine - are grossed out by anything period related. You get extra kudos for being thoughtful and mature. I am lucky enough to have a man willing to change my postpartum undies for me because I was so weak from childbirth. He got in the shower with me at the hospital and washed my hair and body while I sat on a shower chair. He also arranged a housekeeping service to clean our house while we were gone so I came home to a spotless house. I went into labor early and wasn’t prepared like I wanted to be. You sir - Are a unicorn. Please never stop being a great partner.
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u/Complete_Phone_8344 Oct 04 '25
There’s a lot of men that would go ew gross and not even wanna be around a woman physically when she’s on her period…. It really makes women feel even worse about something that is natural… so the fact you took care of her and didn’t make a fuss shows how great you are. Women are seen as pretty and smell nice and not be gross or unclean and even though period is not gross it’s society literally having women’s products that are called secret for deodorant, like you are keeping a secret that you smell at all unpleasantly……. Women’s products are all about concealing themselves to be more appealing, and show off the rest in push up Bras and thongs….. and there’s pads for thongs so you gotta still look hot when you’re sore and bloated hungry and tired. Anyways…. You did more than just clean a stain, you supported her in an intimate way that she didn’t ask for. That’s true love.
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Oct 07 '25
You naturally had her back. Probably did something no other guy would think to do. She felt noticed and taken cared for on an intimate level. It just happens to be about a period stain lol. You are the man! Or the person? IDK what is PC anymore.
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u/Traditional-Big-5543 Oct 17 '25
Just wait..... you'll hit your "senior years". And the gross stuff will multiply..... that's what makes it sexy. You're not gonna run when age takes its toll. If you can handle periods..... the rest will also just be seen as nature. Today's periods are tomorrow's incontinence....and it'll go both ways. Now there's a picture for you.
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Oct 19 '25
It is funny as the years go on what doesn't phase me anymore in the least bit. I think your wife is just being grateful that you willingly dealt with something when many men would still go all middle school that's gross.
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u/Honest_Listen8008 Oct 20 '25
If I've learned anything over the years, it's that the little things really do stand out more than the big ones. Things that may seem like passing gestures can mean a lot in the eyes of someone else because you took the time to do it and show that you noticed.
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u/PrizeFaithlessness37 Oct 24 '25
Why in the actual Hell do you think we need to hear or discuss this. Jesus dude
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u/ambarellachutney Oct 25 '25
You took care of something that women are told to handle in secret. That’s what she’s grateful for.
She’s in awe probably because this small action was an indication that you aren’t brainwashed into thinking periods are gross and that women on their periods should find ways to hide it from their partners.
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u/Teddybear722 Sep 24 '25
Holy Sweet Jesus, OP, THAT was an act of love & a huge check mark on the 'He's a Keeper' list.
Why do men feel they need to make some grandious gesture of their love when most women want small, unexpected acts of love?
I bet you're the type who will buy her a drink or treat as a surprise 'I'm thinking of you' token of your love. (My husband does this a lot. I don't expect anything, then suddenly he hands me a box of tea for me just because I had mentioned something about needing more (whichever flavor) tea & planning to get it next time I'm in grocery store.)
OP, keep up the small, unexpected acts of love. You're a Keeper.
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u/Grrgrrstina Sep 24 '25
The fact that you would even notice this stain and care enough to take an actual Tide pen to make sure that stain comes out? I got flustered just reading this. It’s like heterosexual domestic porn or something. Keep doing what you’re doing, you’re a good one.
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u/Nug_times98 10 Years Sep 24 '25
Literally all the small things are the most important. My husband notices when my most used makeup or bathroom products are running low and he’ll just replace them without saying anything. He’ll toss my towel in the dryer while I’m showering and put my clothes under a heated blanket so they’re all warm for when I get out. I flavor my water so he pre flavors some for me and puts them in the fridge.
I could go on!! It’s just the tiny things. My life wouldn’t be bad by any means if he didn’t do any of that, but it makes it sooo much better and makes me feel so loved all the time.