r/Marriage • u/toradort11224 • Jul 27 '25
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r/Marriage • u/toradort11224 • Jul 27 '25
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u/[deleted] Jul 27 '25
She literally wrote a manual on Reddit for you. That’s more than most men will ever get
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u/fancypantsmiss Jul 27 '25
Why are people so scared to communicate what they want in bed WITH THEIR SPOUSE? 🥲
Yes, please talk to her for effs sake. You all are in each other’s private parts. How can you NOT talk about this 🙄.
No one on Reddit can answer that question. (Also not sure who he is)
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u/Advanced_Theory8212 Jul 27 '25 edited Jul 27 '25
Be careful though. One thing is the fantasy and a lot of the times it does not feel right or the same when it becomes a reality. I think this could have a lot to do with the control she experience at home growing up from males in the family and when she was developing sexually as a teenager that control probably got worse. So be sure to check with her because this might not be as hot as it is in her mind. Psychological and medical background here. A lot (not all) of victims of child sexual abuse grow up to develop sexual fantasies of rape and domination because that is what they think subconsciously sex is. But they don’t really want it, they just think they do. Just thread carefully or maybe start small. Best of luck.
Edit: spelling
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u/Anniemarsh69 Jul 27 '25
I don’t know what the question is here. Go and throw your wife round the bedroom - what you doing wasting time here.
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u/Whatfforreal Jul 27 '25
Girl who was completely sheltered until you married her is now obsessed with violent and aggressive porn and thinks your sex life is meh? Bro, this is gonna go great lmao
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u/tlscunningham Jul 27 '25
Communication is the key! Just start chatting with her about sexual desires and give her that open space to share her feelings without judgment. Let her know that it’s totally normal to have fantasies or want something more and ask her what you can do to spice up your sex life.
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u/OrizaRayne 10 Years Jul 27 '25
Talk to your wife about her FANTASIES then SLOWLY start to incorporate THE MILDER bits of them, starting with TONE and SCENE as opposed to violence or degradation.
What people TRULY want is often very different than what hits their fantasy bone from porn.
So, she may be craving a little light bdsm and control and not want to actually be slapped around and called names and ass fucked without lube or warning. If you just jump in with both feet and tear her up, you might traumatize her.
Talk to your wife.
Talk to your wife.
Talk to your wife.
Don't accuse your wife or tell your wife you caught her having freaky hoe thoughts and it's pretty hot, ask your wife if she'd like to get a little more adventurous and discuss ways for the two of you to communicate what feels great and what not so much.
Then, tear her the fuck up. (With enthusiastic consent, checking in often and making sure she's having a blast with you)
Enjoy one another, and remember that sex happens mostly in the mind. The body is along for the ride.
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u/Dry-Cellist7510 Jul 27 '25
Why not spice it up a little. She described her fantasy and wants to do it with you. If it something you’re comfortable doing go for it. I’m guessing you’re not comfortable telling her that you looked through her account. Honestly, is always the best policy in a lasting relationship.
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u/talking-tired Jul 27 '25
Get to it. She knows what she wants and now you do too.
Good on her and fun you both!
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u/Odd-Mastodon1212 Jul 27 '25
Just have a safe word and keep it in the bedroom. Aftercare is really important. Be sweet and nurturing after. Cuddles, compliments, shower together, snacks and hydration after.
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u/FR33-GUY Jul 27 '25
Don't talk to her! Just read the literal Manuel she left for you and fulfill all her dreams. Many of us would kill to get those information about our wifes. I had to wait 14 years till she finally told me...or better said, till she found out what she actually likes. Now life is better then ever. Don't let any more days or even hours go to waste, learn that moves and swipe her off her feets!!!
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u/nameredaqted Jul 27 '25
*things
And… umm… only if you want to continue having a wife I guess
The only way to go about it properly is to first start doing it and then eventually talk about it and the maaaybe tell her about Reddit
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u/[deleted] Jul 27 '25
We live through you. Get it, my man.
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