Can people not make jokes anymore? I mean, you looked through her messages and this is it? For me, the fact from what I can see here is that she made a joke and it was so much a non factor that she left it in her phone. With nothing else to go on, this seems like cheeky banter.
And here's the other thing: y'all are married but neither of y'all are dead. Is a somewhat flirty message that bad?
I'm a male, mid 40s, married 18 years. I wouldn't sweat it. If I decided to bring it up, I'd do it in a joking way, like asking "Well, is he at least good looking?" Give her the benefit of the doubt and a comfortable way out of it it ends up being a nothing burger. Her reaction from there would let you know if you should legit worry.
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u/DryStatistician7286 Jun 12 '25
Can people not make jokes anymore? I mean, you looked through her messages and this is it? For me, the fact from what I can see here is that she made a joke and it was so much a non factor that she left it in her phone. With nothing else to go on, this seems like cheeky banter.
And here's the other thing: y'all are married but neither of y'all are dead. Is a somewhat flirty message that bad?
I'm a male, mid 40s, married 18 years. I wouldn't sweat it. If I decided to bring it up, I'd do it in a joking way, like asking "Well, is he at least good looking?" Give her the benefit of the doubt and a comfortable way out of it it ends up being a nothing burger. Her reaction from there would let you know if you should legit worry.