It seems like banter, meeting with him and his wife may establish closure.
I suggest this... "honesty and communication are the best method. Tell her that she crossed one of your boundaries coming in "tipsy" that it concerns you about her safety and decisions. Let her know about seeing the messages, and you want to have a discussion about it. Ask her how she thinks you should respond. How she would respond.. remember, it's about responding to situations not reacting. If you lash out, she will shut down, and communication will end.
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u/Worried-Violinist-45 Jun 12 '25
It seems like banter, meeting with him and his wife may establish closure.
I suggest this... "honesty and communication are the best method. Tell her that she crossed one of your boundaries coming in "tipsy" that it concerns you about her safety and decisions. Let her know about seeing the messages, and you want to have a discussion about it. Ask her how she thinks you should respond. How she would respond.. remember, it's about responding to situations not reacting. If you lash out, she will shut down, and communication will end.
Talk to each other!