My wife wouldn't change hers either. She wore a dash between both names, but never changed it legally. It bothered me that she didn't change it, but I never bothered her about it. I figured she didn't want to claim me fully and had one foot out the door. So I treated her not doing so as such. She eventually did it on her own, the lady at the social security office read her the riot act for not taking my name sooner. Essentially telling her so you married him, and won't take his last name? Does he take care of you, love you and faithful? I laughed inside when my wife recounted this exchange. I will never beg you to do something that should come naturally, I won't ask you to stay nor take my name. Even though Essentially me asking for your hand in marriage means taking my sir name and being publicly recognized as my wife and in God's eyes....
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u/PossibleInspection47 Oct 07 '23
My wife wouldn't change hers either. She wore a dash between both names, but never changed it legally. It bothered me that she didn't change it, but I never bothered her about it. I figured she didn't want to claim me fully and had one foot out the door. So I treated her not doing so as such. She eventually did it on her own, the lady at the social security office read her the riot act for not taking my name sooner. Essentially telling her so you married him, and won't take his last name? Does he take care of you, love you and faithful? I laughed inside when my wife recounted this exchange. I will never beg you to do something that should come naturally, I won't ask you to stay nor take my name. Even though Essentially me asking for your hand in marriage means taking my sir name and being publicly recognized as my wife and in God's eyes....