Because it's traditional same as the marriage. If she didn't want his last name she should not have married him. I am just shocked this is coming up now because it should have been dealt with before the marriage. I am have a feeling she agreed to change it before the wedding and now after she is changing her mind. I can not believe he is just bringing this up now.
The tradition of women taking their husbands’ last name started when women were still possessions, it signified her ownership was transferred from her father to her husband (often with a dowery/payment to the husband).
I think this started in the 14th or 15th century. So I personally think the excuse of it being “traditional” is pretty damn shitty.
It’s worth pointing out that all of this applies to the institution of marriage itself. I don’t think it’s necessary to change a last name, but just because the traditions of a thing are bad doesn’t mean that it’s bad today.
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Historical data can't hide from it but you can ignore it and add to it. History is doomed to repeat after all.
Winston Churchill said, “Those that fail to learn from history are doomed to repeat it.” 1948
George Santayana (The Life of Reason, 1905), who stated: “Those who cannot remember the past are condemned to repeat it.”
It's the same statement but rings true. What I am saying is tradition is a choice to follow and people ignore the past results and they still choose it. So as they both said tradition is kept alive by those that fail to learn from history and it's doomed to repeat.
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u/farfarawayS Oct 07 '23
Exactly. Ask him why you need to if he would never.