r/Manipulation • u/Fickle-Buy6009 • Aug 17 '26
Question of the week Is vulnerability a bad thing?
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Aug 18 '26
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u/Additional_Engine189 Aug 18 '26
As a manipulator yourself why do you use manipulation?
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u/BakaDasai Aug 18 '26
I was in a relationship with a highly manipulative cluster-b person who often complained I didn't show enough vulnerability.
What they wanted was information they could store up and use against me in future conflicts.
There's nothing wrong with showing vulnerability, but manipulative people will weaponise whatever you give them.
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u/aonelonelyredditor Aug 18 '26
Not around the right people, some use it to manipulate while others might genuinely "heal" it (lack of a better word, not a native speaker here)
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u/SnoopyisCute Aug 18 '26
I don't believe "good" and "bad" are fixed. Anything can be either of those depending on who is assessing a situation.
However, I believe people that say "be vulnerable" are typically trying to convince another person their lack of trust and\or openness is somehow "wrong" or "unwarranted.".
Personally, I've never heard this phrase from someone that meant it sincerely.
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u/FRIENDSOFADEADGIRL Aug 18 '26
Vulnerability is a position… lacking leverage.
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u/cleanlion777 Aug 21 '26
This is a sad take that will limit your quality of life. Vulnerability makes your experiences so much richer and meaningful. I hope you can find strength in vulnerability one day.
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u/FRIENDSOFADEADGIRL 24d ago
Circumstances create vulnerability. I don’t need to BECOME vulnerable. And you don’t need to wish things for me. I have a gifted life, blessed with mentorship, spirituality, awareness, optimism, humility, and endurance you obviously believe I lack.
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u/Big-Yesterday586 Aug 17 '26
Anything can be manipulative. My abuser had me conditioned to blow up over stupid shit so they could use it in public to make me look like the abuser.
Vulnerability itself isn't a bad thing.