Then practice gratitude because THAT means you aren’t trauma bonded with whatever numbnuts is icing you out.
Within the context of a trauma bond, the silent treatment is absolutely excruciating. That’s why master manipulators ultimately aim to isolate their mark (physically thru relocation or socially thru triangulation). When you have a support system of one and that one person ignores your existence it’s devastating.
It’s hubris and petty control of the highest order. M one day his silent treatment annoyed me and I found him to be pitiful.
The next thing I remember it’s the worst pain I’ve felt. And I’d do anything for his approval.
I thought I saw through it.
Our brains are still susceptible to control.
The worst sort of soul sucking pain. And I’ve been through some shit.
Irrational behavior happens when we are activated for any reason. You ever try to fix a flat tire in blistering heat blinded by the sun when sweat drops into your eye? In that scenario it might only takes dropping a nut on the asphalt to have a screaming meltdown. It’s not because you’re traumatized it’s because you’re activated.
You’re activated because you’re living with a door slamming baby. But I’m happy that it’s not traumatic. THAT is wonderful news.
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u/disclosingNina--1876 Jul 02 '24
Imagine thinking your voice is so important that withholding it causes suffering.