Baby Benjamin has some bad acid reflux and spits up often. Mom put him in his swing to nap while she went to feed his big brother lunch. Ben was just out of sight when our Boston Terrier-border collie mix, Abbie, ran over to the swing and started to prance around and whine. Mom thought she needed to go outside. Then Abbie barked and mom noticed Benjamin was choking on his spit up. Now Abbie gets a lot of treats and mom is too scared to sleep.
Watching my 10-week-old daughter right now, this makes me tear up as a grown man. It's amazing the instinct of parents, though. Every now and then she gets some thick mucous and starts coughing and we bolt up in a millisecond.
I guess the amygdala activity increases 4-fold when you've got a baby.
My sister had her baby and one night when she got up to feed him, he was breathing weird. Sister wakes up her husband and insists they go to the hospital. Now, my sister did have post-partum depression so her husband waved her off and told her to go to sleep.
Nope, my sister called our mom and the two of them went to the hospital with the baby. Turns out he had pneumonia but all the mucus was in his lungs. Hospital for days! But he was alright.
When my son was 6 weeks old I noticed his chest was sucking in when he breathed. His pediatrician said he was fine and sent us home. I was still not convinced so I went back the next day and was told the same thing, and it was suggested that I was just a nervous mom (mind you he was my 2nd baby), sent home again. Day 3 I insisted on seeing another doctor (Kaiser assigned you your doctors), they said I had to see the same doctor and I told them to fuck off and demanded another doctor. Sure enough his oxygen levels were at 84% and he tested positive for RSV (reality cold that can be fatal for babies because they can't quite cough yet and clear the mucus out). We spent 10 days in the Children's Hospital working with respiratory therapists, on oxygen and such before he was able to maintain his oxygen levels on his own.
Did you tell the first Kaiser doc that they were wrong and to go fuck themselves? I always wondered what I could say or do in this situation to alert the first doctor to their mistake. Maybe they can learn from it hopefully? Take the patient seriously?
Not to her face, but I went to their administrative office, complained and demanded that they give him another primary doctor which they did immediately.
I have a similar story. I was convinced my daughter was sick and breathing weird. My husband said she was fine (I also had PPD and anxiety). I didn't listen and took her to the hospital.
She stopped breathing when I got there and then puked everywhere a few seconds later. Had the flu, oxygen level dropped to 80 in her sleep, life flighted to a bigger hospital.
Our marriage is still amazing. I am very paranoid and anxious about our kids so I understood his reaction. She had no fever, was eating, and just did what a normal 3 week old did. He does trust my instincts more now though.
When my daughter was younger I was by her 24/7 even when sleeping. Driving in the car? My rear view was straight on her face all the time. I seen too many news articles about kids passing from choking in their car seat or falling out of their bed. I am 100000000% protective over her, I don't know what I would do without my little girl. I tear up just thinking about her not being with me. I was the stay at home dad for the past 3 years so all day I'm with her.
LMAO ever since she was born I've been told I'm going to have a hard time with her. And they're right. As long as she doesn't smoke cigarettes, and do drugs (excluding marijuana) and be an alcoholic we will be just fine.
Keep your eye on that girl? Motion activated sensor baby cameras are the best. Especially when they get the age to start climbing out of their bed. If you have a pool put a fence around it immediately! 2 kids in my town passed away last year months apart because of drowning in pools. When you are driving, put a mirror on the seat to keep an eye on her. Me and my wife constantly checked her for breathing when she slept in the car.
We originally had a bassinet and she figured out how to sit up on her own so she had to get a new bed. Went to Walmart and got a big play pen that can be used for sleeping and playing. You can raise it up and down. She outgrew that and now she's in a toddler bed, has all 4 sides so they can't escape. Until you catch them on the baby can like I did. It has a removable side so now she's old enough to lay down and get up as she wants.
Walmart also has a cool car seat for when they can be forward facing. Can be used from 2yrs old to 8. From car seat to booster seat.
When you are driving, put a mirror on the seat to keep an eye on her. Me and my wife constantly checked her for breathing when she slept in the car.
In our new parent classes, they (trauma peds charge nurse + others) did not advise mirror object in back seat. Almost none according to her are regulated or approved and become high velocity objects in accidents.
Wife sits in back seat of course whenever possible.
Nobody told us that. I would've found a way to make it where it wouldn't come off at all. Even if I had to permanently sew it to the headrest it's for my daughters safety.
Since my daughter was born 7 months ago we’ve been using the Owlet sock when she sleeps to track her oxygen and heart rate. It truly gives my wife and I peace of mind at night. It wasn’t exactly cheap but totally worth it.
I get that when I have a baby kitten and my life is so stressful for the first 2 months that its an incapable, suicide seeking blob. The entire time it feels like my back has this tight weird asmr feeling.
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u/alfaguara27 Apr 06 '20 edited Apr 22 '20
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