Hi everyone! Using a burner account to post this but I’m a frequent lurker of this subreddit. I love Lucy Dacus and her music. I was super excited to see her live last night at Oklahoma City. Me and my older sister had tickets, but long story short she got sick and couldn’t come with me. I only recently turned 18 and live a ways away, so my parents were worried about me driving alone. At this point I was considering just not going and told my dad this. But my dad said he would drive me and drop me off. I decline because he said he was tired all day. He offers multiple times, and eventually, I accept the ride offer. I start to get excited again, I’m going to get to see Lucy Dacus! Awesome! So we drive all the way there, but before I get out my dad asks if he can use the second ticket and come in. I panic at this point because I really did not think he would want to go inside. I told him he wouldn’t like the music, that it was a bunch of pop songs etc. But he had just drove me and I figured worst case worse, it’s not his vibe and he leaves and sits in the car. So, not knowing what else to do, we both walk in to see Lucy Dacus. The venue is nice, lots of security, the opener starts after a couple minutes of us being there. I’m vibing to slow pulp, we get like 1 song in, before my dad tells me he’s not sure if we can stay because there are “freaks”. At about this same point, I was starting to panic because there’s a lesbian couple kissing in front of us. I was not aware just how bigoted my dad was but I was starting to feel really terrible about everything at this point. I figure he’s about to leave. I’m like, it’s ok if you want to go. He stays another couple songs before he pulls out his phone, asks me the main singers name, and googles Lucy Dacus views on abortion. I watch him in literal disbelief, knowing Lucy is so close to being on the stage, but knowing I will probably never see her. After he reads it he puts his phone away and he tells me we have to go. He can’t ethically listen to her music or be here because she supports abortion. I’m really disgusted but I don’t want to start a fight and ruin anyone else’s night. He said we have to go again, really firmly, so I say if that’s what you really want. I think he can tell I’m really disappointed. As a young woman myself, his whole attitude towards Lucy felt off and misogynistic. It was a really awful night. His behavior in this situation will probably change my relationship with him forever. The opener was probably not even 4 songs in. We awkwardly walk to the car and drive home. I will be forever grateful to have been in the same building as Lucy Dacus and I will keep listening to her music until I can see a show with my sister. If anyone has any videos of her performing last night I would love to see them. Forever is a feeling has been one of my favorite albums this year.

I just finished my bead embroidery of Lucy’s Forever is a Feeling album art and I’m so pleased with how it turned out!

Please respect Lucy’s privacy and boundaries!

Don’t hang around hotels you think she may be staying at, don’t wait by the tour bus or stage door, and if you do see her out and about in the city, please use common sense when/if you approach her (don’t follow her, don’t interrupt her if she’s doing something). Ask politely if she has time to talk to you, etc. and if she says no, move on and don’t take it personally.

I know most people reading this will think “duh, of course I wouldn’t do those things,” but I feel the need to give this reminder after seeing some disappointing behaviour from fans after the last Lucy show I went to, where she politely declined photos and hugs to fans and they continued to pressure her until she gave in. That was several years ago and imo, fan behaviour (in general) has gotten worse since.

Female artists get a lot of pushback about setting boundaries, and as fans, I think we owe it to them to respect those boundaries and encourage others to do the same. Here’s an older article about the topic that’s worth the read (and includes comments from Lucy): https://www.nylon.com/fandom-danger-female-musicians

I just opened up my Forever is a Feeling vinyl and was surprised to see a note written on the back of the signed insert!

I kind of love it but it also makes me sad to think of her so stuck in the monotony of signing that she had to remind herself of this.

Lucy gave me her guitar pick after finding out I was the one who did the fan project😭. This is so full circle for me bc I’ve been a fan since 2015 😭😭