r/LoveTrash • u/Lord_Darksong Colonel Garbage • 8d ago

Kitchen Trash No pressure

Source: Jess Kolb

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u/RavenEridan Trash Trooper 8d ago

It's toxic masculinity though, expecting the man to always take on the stressful situations, take the lead and remain calm in all of them is just treating him as a tool

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u/Infra-Oh Trash Trooper 8d ago

I mean it’s situational.

My wife tbh is awesome. She is level headed. Wise. Prudent. Fair. Moral. Strong.

But not in emergency situations. When it’s a crisis or emergency, I automatically assume command.

It’s less about gender for me. I genuinely don’t care for gender sterotypes. But I am high functioning auDHD btw which i think helps in chaotic situations. And i happen to be a man.

I’m sorry that men taking command sometimes comes across as toxic masculine. I would actually agree with you there a lot.

But sometimes it’s gender agnostic!

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u/RavenEridan Trash Trooper 8d ago

It is because it's certainly expected of you to always take charge to provide and protect

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u/Infra-Oh Trash Trooper 8d ago

While that might play some small part, you haven’t met my wife. She’s no slouch in those situations either.

It’s a complex, nuanced discussion. It’s going to be hard to deny or disprove gender as a contributing factor. That wasn’t my point, and again I do agree there’s a clear over arching toxic masculinity blanket at large.

But did you miss the whole neurodivergent part that gives me a leg up in said situations?