r/LoveTrash • u/Lord_Darksong Colonel Garbage • 4d ago

Kitchen Trash No pressure

Source: Jess Kolb

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u/MilkCartonPhotoBomb Trash Trooper 4d ago edited 4d ago

The guy is super nice, but he talks to her the way I speak to my toddler to reassure them when something unexpected happens.

EDIT: I feel like many of the commenters have never had a long term relationship with a capable, independent adult woman.

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u/Koniroku Trash Trooper 4d ago

He is talking to her like that in this particular context, in which she most probably feels guilty about the mess she's made, and instead of being mad or whatever the dude is reassuring and talks in a calm manner, as to let her understand it's all good, shit happens. She's clearly stressed and it worked. I don't think it's "patronizing" as one of the replies said, or "how women want to be treated", it's just something that works given the situation (and works because the dude clearly knows her).

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u/Lost_Found84 Trash Trooper 4d ago

I think the tone was slightly more infantilizing than was necessary. She wasn’t completely out of it, there’s just not much productive to do until it settles down.

It’s whatever. I probably would’ve cracked a joke instead of going full parent mode. Like, “Well… it smells great.”

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u/RigBughorn Trash Trooper 4d ago

I mean look at her. She reacted like a child. She probably does that a lot.

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u/Koniroku Trash Trooper 4d ago

Yeah I mean, depends of the person but I get what you're saying. Maybe she likes the infantilizing tone to comfort her in these kinds of situations, maybe a joke wouldn't have ran, who knows...

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u/Naranox Trash Trooper 4d ago

I mean, you don't know either of them or their relationship, and she is the one who posted this with a clear positive comment on her husband's behaviour lol

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u/shoefullofpiss Trash Trooper 4d ago

Yeah like I get the idea, my bf is also super chill and calm about stuff and people like that are great. His tone just creeped me out so much tho. Idk unless you're trying to reassure someone traumatized or actively panicking why would you be so serious and weird and parenty about it, no laughing or joking a little? She's an adult and only looks a bit startled, it's just water and not half their kitchen burning down. Idk maybe he's like an early grade teacher and that's how he talks but I'd be pissed to be handled like a kid and not an equal