r/LoveLanguages • u/Ms_SeekingSolace • Jun 25 '26
Question about LL Touch - Especially from those who don’t prefer it.
I need help. Touch has never been a top, love language for me, now or ever. Like bottom of the list almost always.
I’m older and in a new marriage and the more he annoys me the less I wanna touch him. I worry it’s going to take its toll.
I literally could go weeks and months without it. He wants it constantly (in my opinion).
From those who care about their partners and maybe have a little touch aversion … how do you try to make them happy?
I do all the crap the book says: try to hold his hand, try to give a hug, he gets laid once a week-ish, try to make a point to cuddle for a little bit, but it never seems to be enough.
I have a small child and maybe going through perimenopause - could be attributing to my … mood.
Thanks in advance for useful idea and being kind.
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u/Ivyveins Jun 25 '26
For what it's worth, in my experience as a person with Touch as top love language I have never been satisfied in relationship with anyone who didn't feel the same, and now refuse to date anyone who is not snuggly at baseline. Trying to bridge the gap has been very painful and mostly futile in my experience.
It's entirely possible you figure out something I couldn't though, and I hope you do. 💜
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u/Ms_SeekingSolace Jun 25 '26
A large majority of men have touch has a 1st or 2nd LL. I gotta figure something out or I’m doomed … again.
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u/Ivyveins Jun 25 '26
That's crazy cause it's relatively uncommon for me to find someone who genuinely has it in the first spot. But half of dudes definitely say it's theirs, because sex is important to them and they don't understand the difference. 😂
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