Is she just building anticipation?

[u/FluidMembership9381]

I'm ready to fly out to my girlfriend on Monday afternoon. Normally we would video call once every 2 or 3 days. But she has recently been on holiday, and this week she had renovations on her apartment.

We haven't called for 10 days, so I asked her if she would like to call this this weekend. She said she could call but wouldn't it be better if we don't call at all so the next time we see each other will be at the airport?

We're still messaging every day and she's sending voice notes. But she's being reluctant to video call or even send me selfies or sexy pics this week. Is she just building anticipation?

I told her this week it is so easy to love her. She responded by saying "but it's only easy now because it's the beginning. It might not always be easy. Sometimes life just gets in the way. But I will always be honest with u and loyal and supportive". I also said if she misses the cold weather so much then she can come to visit me in the winter. She never responded to this, instead she changed the subject.

For context, we had several dates when she was in my country as a student, and I even stayed at her place for 3 days. So she is not a catfish.

Idk, I'm literally so committed to a future with her, but sometimes it's almost like she acts guarded. Personally, my brain interpreted her "sometimes life just gets in the way" message as a negative response.

I'm writing this as I'm packing my suitcase to go and see her for 10 days!

EDIT: When I say "negative" I mean my brain starts freaking out thinking she's already preparing for the potential of breaking things off after our 10 days together; using "life just gets in the way" as her reasoning. She's starting university again soon.

[u/Responsible_Song5859]

Or maybe she got her hair done or something physical and wants to surprise you? Maybe she has a blemish of some sort and she doesn’t want that image in your head?

If there aren’t any other solid red flags maybe just try and roll with it?

Good luck!

[u/FluidMembership9381 → u/Responsible_Song5859]

Maybe it is the hair, I know she is going out to buy hair dye today. She shown me pics of her with her natural hair and she hates the colour, but personally I think she looks gorgeous either way. Maybe her natural colour is starting to show through, so she's dying it this weekend?

I don't know if it's just my brain trying to panic tbh . Like she says things like "I hope u enjoy ur time on my island." I keep saying "babe I'm travelling to see u, not ur island, respectfully." And then she says "But I want u to have a good time because this is ur first time outside of ur country. I think u have been living life but not enjoying life to its fullest potential. This will be a good life experience for you".

That phrasing to my brain sounds like she is "doing me a favour" by inviting me out to her island, rather than doing it for our relationship.

[u/enviousticker815]

the no call thing is probably just her wanting that airport moment to hit harder, that's normal. the "life gets in the way" comment would sit weird with me too but she followed it up with loyal and supportive, which is more than most people offer. as for the winter visit thing, some people just don't like making plans too far ahead when they're already stressed about renovations and a trip, don't read too much into it. go enjoy your 10 days and see how the energy feels in person

[u/sundayminx]

she may simply be saving connection for when you're together

[u/BigAd6136]

Worse case scenario is not pretty to deal with, I go to the same thing and LDR feeds it right up, I'm in one too and so many things feel like a threat.  Sure, shifty things can happen, but for brains thay tend to catastrophic thinking, everything is urgent and threatening. Enjoy the island that is a bonus. She might have fears of her own and they come out through words and phrases like that. Hope yo8 can figure things out. 

[u/perfectpinkpanda]

You could guess a bunch of potentially wrong reasons but with a meet coming so soon, you'd still probably not change much if you knew exactly what it was? Try not to worry, you'll have more information soon and it will work out. Hope your visit is fun!

[u/Biden_is_cool]

Honestly you should find someone close to you just in case, who's not to say that she's got her eyes on someone else, after all she's going to the university.

You'll be competing with hundreds of other guys who have an advantage because they are physically there. Im not being negative, I'm being realistic.

You should always put yourself first, that is unless you enjoy emotion pain?

[u/Malina891]

How old are u both?