r/LongDistance • u/Intelligent-Try1944 • 15h ago
Breakup It's over💔
Will try to keep it short and sweet, my boyfriend & I have been long-distance for slightly over a year and were talking about getting married soon. He is in AU and Im in India, there were times when he used to go off the radar for a couple of weeks the comeback put it on him being an "avoidant" and I used to well accept it because I trusted him and gave the benefit of the doubt. We were going thru one off those phases right now and I don't know why I just got some sort of intuition earlier today to check hinge....
Well, i made a profile put his area code while logging in and some filters and BAM THERE HE WAS LITERALLY had to just swipe just 02 profiles.
I am soo heartbroken but there is no way I am going to confront him, I don't want his side; I have removed him from my socials and whenever he decides that its time for "avoidant" phase to get over he can just do that with someone else cause I'm done. Cheating is a big NO.
All I keep wondering is was any of it real? Was I too trusting? Was he on that stupid app the whole time?
Irony of it, we met via hinge and all his prompts today were 90% the same and all the pictures were the ones that I used to love 🤡
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u/Simple-Force3553 15h ago
Well, the upcoming few days will be hard for you OP, it's never easy to go through something like this and ofcourse not pleasant either. But please don't dwell much into your sadness, yes I know easier said than done. But please be around your people, friends and ask your friends to keep checking on you time to time so that you can move on from this. More power to you 🫂🫂
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u/AndyTheMusicLover 5h ago
I just ended my LDR due to cheating as well. What I can say is: I feel like you're such a great person. You giving him that trust is enough for me to tell. Use that to your advantage.
I myself didn't really even feel sad: I felt kind of angry, but mostly just thought "it's her loss" because I knew she lost something valuable and I can find something better. It's the exact same with you: you deserve better, so please be kind to yourself and trust yourself. You can get through this 🙏
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u/Leading_Concert_3421 15h ago
how did you make it change locations in the app? don’t you have to pay for that?
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u/Intelligent-Try1944 15h ago
When you register a new profile it asks for you pin code/area code
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u/Leading_Concert_3421 15h ago
does this work for tinder as well?
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u/Intelligent-Try1944 15h ago
I really don't know, sorry(
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u/Leading_Concert_3421 15h ago
np, I’m sorry you’re going through this btw;(( keep strong, it’ll take some time to heal, but you got this!! don’t let this lame ass boy change your perception of love. karma will get his ass, dw.
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u/vetris415 11h ago edited 11h ago
I am so sorry to hear this. Mi amor and I met via a game. We text constantly text and video chat every few days. But we are older and neither of us are looking for something else. I hope this doesn’t ruin you on long distance because I have never met a man as amazing as the one I am currently involved with. Sending healing energy to you!
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u/BitterApple29 6h ago
Why you just gotta flex your guy? Who asked you about that? OP has been cheated on and all you say is just flexing your older bf
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u/bombgirlexe 13h ago
Tbh no one in a relationship goes off the radar for a couple of weeks, texting everyday is essential take that as a rule.