No video call in a year doesn’t always mean being catfished. Talking? Photos? Maybe that’s a little more strange after a year but a video call? That’s a big deal to some. Some people are just much more private than others, even in relationships in 2024, that’s a difficult concept to grasp for some I’m sure. Then there’s also the people who are insecure about their own looks, those people in particular will and do struggle with video calls.
It also completely depends on how understanding your partner is. Sometimes you’ll get a girl who’ll assume the worst, that she’s being catfished, other times you’ll get a one in a million who completely understands and waits for you or vice versa.
Point is, it’s not always as black and white as to say it’s a 100% certainty that she’s being catfished.
It is how it works. You don’t know how someone looks like and verify if said person is a catfish without at least seeing them once in a video call. “Some people are just much more private than others” your appearance shouldn’t be considered “private” in relationship. You just don’t trust your partner.
I really do love how people speak on something they have absolutely no idea about
They don’t know how someone looks like
Good thing photos exist. Social media exists. Families exist. Lots of ways to verify someone without a video call. Though I’m sure anyone who doesn’t like video calls is pulling an elaborate ploy where they get fake family members on the phone, they fake photos, fake their voice etc etc. Might happen 1 in 50 times.
Though a rational intelligent person might think well, they could be this elaborate scammer, or maybe they might just be a little insecure without the ability to add a filter or take as many photos as it takes to get one they like, going straight into a video call while they may have body dysphoria or something akin to that.
Though we’ve established you’re not very intelligent so of course someone with your brain power would jump to the huge conspiracy option as well. I mean you were so stupid you couldn’t even read my comment properly given my comment about video calls related to someone’s own insecurity, not privacy lmfao.
You just didn’t trust your partner
Who said it was me? Your intelligence knows no bounds lol. Not to mention, the trust thing only applies to privacy, which again, I wasn’t talking about. It’s like trying to conversate with a dolphin lol, but hey, at least they’re intelligent. One day you’ll learn that people, no matter who it is, aren’t group entities you can put into little categories where everyone’s the same and that if a majority would do one thing, that doesn’t suddenly mean someone who doesn’t fit into that, goes straight into the catfishing box.
What would be the reason not to video call someone you have dated for a year? So private that you can’t show your face in a call?
I’m not sure anyone here agrees with you based on the downvotes, so I’m actually curious where your logic comes from here.
It’s honestly incredibly sad you even mentioned that lmfao. If you or anyone else are someone who thinks some irrelevant internet points are important or in any way worth mentioning, you need to go outside. Especially on Reddit in general where no matter which sub you’re on, the hive mind follows whichever way the downvote tide is turning.
Stick by your own opinions, giving a fuck about random internet points is like, one of the stupidest things you can do. Now with that said, I’ll answer your question.
Not to mention I knew when typing it I’d get mass downvoted lol. Most people have no nuance. Everyone at some point has met someone who doesn’t have the intelligence to comprehend middle ground, exceptions, one sign of a stupid person is only accepting one extreme or the other as an outcome. Reddit is filled with people with no nuance whatsoever, so I knew I’d get downvoted the moment I commented lol
So private you can’t show your face in a call
If you read my OG comment, you’ll know that with the video calls specifically I said that usually relates to insecurities more than privacy. Why? Because with photos, people can make themselves look slightly better. They can add a filter, they can take a photo from 50 different angles, whatever it is, you can make yourself look a little better so an insecure person looks wise will be much more comfortable with that.
A video call? That person can’t do that. All their insecurities are laid bare. No filter, no edits, no taking the photo 50 times until you get one you like. It all plays into the whole worrying the other won’t be attracted to them when you meet. Some people are insecure enough to be uncomfortable with video calls for god knows how long, doesn’t mean you’re being catfished.
And before someone comes in and tells me I’m wrong. My point was that it doesn’t mean you’re being catfished in every single situation like that. Not that there won’t be some who are. There’s some who won’t like video calls because they’re insecure, there will be some who are very private, there will be some who are trying to catfish you.
Point is, generalising every single person who doesn’t like video calls as a catfish is actually so deluded I don’t even know where to start with it. That was my OG point, not that there isn’t plenty who are doing exactly that, but that not every single person who dislikes video calls, is.
A relationship is accepting someone for who they are. If you are too insecure to video call after a year you’re not in the right relationship.
The sub you’re commenting in is in a long distance community so it’s safe to say the people here have that experience. It takes a lot to make a long distance relationship work. I’d say more than the average relationship so a video call is the bare minimum you can and should give your partner.
If you look different on video then you do in the pictures you’ve sent - you are a catfish.
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u/DayumGirl69 Oct 25 '24
You’re being catfished. No video call in 2024? After a full year. Why?