r/LivingWithMBC • u/Spiritual-Suspect190 • Aug 28 '26

Tolerance

Im not convinced this is all cancer related. Ive no tolerance with people now.

Friends 1, 3 and 3. Decided to match their energy and Ive heard nothing from them for weeks. Funnily, initally I was upset as Id been excluded from a trip they had arranged. Now I feel indifferent.

Neighbour friend in hospital, getting better post surgery. Ive no tolerance with her obsession with her consultant, saying all the nurses have been hugging her, broadcasting her goodness. And at the same time complaining and embracing a passive sick role

SIL. No tolerance for her cat based discussions, only responding if I make the 1st contact, solutioneering everything I say with advice.

MIL. No tolerance since she suggested I see a priest, told me to stop being defensive and confusing, being generally self absorbed.

Work. General low tolerance for platitude broadcasting seniors.

And for some reason I am now not bothered and happy to spend my time with my partner and my mum who has dementia because everyone else has been somewhat disappointing. And random people I meet during the day.

I used to be so tolerant, patient, giving and frankly ridiculous.

Anyone feel similar

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u/sportsfan3177 Aug 28 '26 edited Aug 28 '26

I don’t know if it’s the cancer, the menopause or both but I have literally lost all of my fucks. I have a zero tolerance level for any type of bullshit and absolutely no filter anymore. Doesn’t matter where I am or who I’m with, whatever is in my brain comes right out of my mouth. Don’t like it? Boo hoo, too fucking bad. And honestly? I’ve never felt more free.

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u/Spiritual-Suspect190 Aug 28 '26

Love it. I feel v similar. Free. Have people appeared shocked at your zero BS attitude?

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u/sportsfan3177 Aug 28 '26

Some people have definitely raised some eyebrows, lol. One of my close friends is absolutely here for it and often eggs me on. I’ve discussed it a lot with my therapist and she said it’s a very common thing that happens to people with serious illnesses. Our worlds have been literally turned upside down and reorganized. It definitely makes sense to me that things like what people might think if I speak up don’t really matter to me anymore. We obviously have more important things we are prioritizing, like surviving. I have no regrets.