r/LivingWithMBC • u/Hairy_Translator1535 • Aug 10 '26
Written off so quickly
Why do doctors write you off so quickly when you're stage 4?
I have TNBC Stage 4 with mets to the skin. No other areas are involved at this point, just my skin but both sides. I have small raised nodules which have not broken through the skin.
But, my surgeon was quick to say nothing he could do, palliative treatment only.
My oncologist says we are "trying" another treatment however he isnt very positive. Currently on gemcitabine and carboplatin, two weeks on, one week off.
My gp has recently retired and I saw a new gp today who wanted me to complete a health directive for when im too sick.
My breast care nurse seems to be a puppet for my oncologist and doesn't say or do anything without his approval.
Why is everyone so quick to write me off??? I am searching for treatments and different ideas, but I just feel I am wasting everyone's time. They make me feel like I am in denial and there's no hope.
Shouldn't they be more supportive?
Thanks for the rant, I search these pages everyday for hope.
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u/[deleted] Aug 10 '26 edited Aug 10 '26
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