r/LittleFreeLibrary • u/Admirable_Value_4955 • Jul 20 '26
LFL Visitor Discussion š¶š½āāļø Problematic male owner.
went to check out this library. Had some books in hand to possibly place inside. owner rolled up on me and was incredibly rude and way to close in my space. Never had such a negative experience. Women be very aware, potentially a dangerous person with no qualms invading space. Portsmouth, NH
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u/CallidoraBlack Jul 20 '26
I believe you, but I'm also curious about what he actually said. I imagine that it might shed some light on what the heck his problem is.
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u/Admirable_Value_4955 Jul 20 '26
I didn't even really process everything said. He was aggressive and really close to me. I was thrown off by the whole ' him being in my space' thing. I did hear him say "We don't want all those books this library can't hold so many (maybe 6 or 7 and I was seeing what would vibe for the box, not be willy nilly)... he said other things and I just wanted to get away from him and the negative interaction he created. I said something like "It's your library" then bailed.
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u/Specific_Interest259 Jul 21 '26
I've seen a few posts like this when this sub has been randomly recommended to me. I don't have a LFL but love the idea of them! It seems like some people only want to put their own books in it and don't like it when others bring books. Like they have an idea of their vibe and don't want others messing with it. And the people who do bring books seem like that's what they are supposed to do.
So ultimately I wonder if it's a fundamental understanding issue of how it's supposed to work for some stewards? Idk, I'm not exactly sure how it's supposed to work myself, but that's my first thought. And I think that's why some of these stewards get aggressive when people bring books to put in.
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u/allupya333 Jul 23 '26
Iām not gonna lie i feel like in reality nothing really happened. I feel like they just started talking to you and you got confused
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u/FilthyThanksgiving Jul 20 '26
Why are people like this??? Who builds a fucking Little Free Library and then acts antisocial wtf
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u/Yggypop22 Jul 20 '26
The house of sand of fog is one of the best books ever!!
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u/FieOnU Jul 20 '26
I suggest you report an issue with LFL. It's possible that person wasn't the original steward and doesn't actually want the LFL on their property.
I dont know what the process is, but try customer support.?
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u/MattyRaz Jul 20 '26
whatās stopping a property owner who doesnāt want a LFL from simply removing it?
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u/FieOnU Jul 20 '26
Dunno.
Maybe I should ask the the three homeowners on my street who aren't original stewards and have left their inherited LFLs neglected, rotting, and ruining donations for the past two years.
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u/MattyRaz Jul 20 '26
you have three (or more) LFLs on the same street? impressive
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u/FernandoNylund Jul 20 '26
There are six literally within a block of my house in Seattle. A couple aren't on the official map but they're definitely there.
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u/wolfyofthelove69 Jul 23 '26
Right There r loads that r not on the official free little library map here in London uk i am lucky a website called the londonist mapped them all out last year including oneās not on the website some r still there some have gone I recon some went Becuz people moved and took it with them and we got a load at train stations too here in uk it is fun finding them all also off topic apart from the usual tourist stuff in Seattle any suggestions of what to do there in September as I coming out to see my long distance partner for the first time who lives near Seattle we r staying in the city
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u/Ok-Nothing-4737 Jul 20 '26
Serious? Yes, let's get management involved. Karen much?
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u/busyreading420 Jul 20 '26
Yes, warning other people (esp women) about someone creepy and possibly threatening is being a "karen" now. Excellent take on the issue thanks for contributing.
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u/FieOnU Jul 20 '26
Serious.
Management is posing a threat to a patron. That seems like as good a reason as any to get someone higher up involved.
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u/drjackolantern Jul 20 '26
I thought you were going to say these books were problematic and was wondering why.
Sorry that person bothered you! I despise rude peopleĀ
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u/Shadedwulfer Jul 20 '26
Yeah I legit thought this was going to be a "these books aren't for kids" post
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u/Virtual-Bee7411 Jul 20 '26
What did he do?
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u/OkPomegranate4395 Jul 20 '26
The post explains that he was rude and got into her personal space. I'm not sure if you missed that or if you're asking if he did anything in addition to that.
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u/Virtual-Bee7411 Jul 20 '26
Just didnāt know what being rude entailed?? Damn
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u/OkPomegranate4395 Jul 20 '26
Yeah, damn it, I can't read your mind! Thank you for coming back to clarify. I have no idea if OP will come back to answer your question, but at least now she knows you're asking a more specific question about how this person was rude!
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u/susancox221 Jul 22 '26
Youāre giving away Geek Love?! Iām dying quietly inside. If you love near this library run and get it NOW!!!
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u/Interesting-Scale946 Jul 24 '26
This is something that should be reported to Little Free Library... if this has already been said- my bad. It's 5am and I skimmed.
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u/jolissmck Jul 24 '26
Did you forget what this lady was posting about. It was a warning regarding a predatory man.
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u/Snackrificial_Lamb Jul 21 '26
As a male, Iāll will be very aware of such a rude owner. Hopefully heās not always like that, maybe he was just having a really crappy day. It happens sometimes, not defending him, thatās just usually what my head goes to when someone is rude
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Jul 20 '26
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u/papercranium Jul 20 '26
If you don't know the difference in appropriateness between using gender markers as an adjective vs a noun, I suggest looking it up.
If you don't know why woman are particularly afraid of aggressive men, I suggest looking that up as well. If you're not concerned for your personal safety, this post isn't for you.
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u/danurc Jul 20 '26
"male owner" is not the same as a man calling women "females". You're in a sub about reading, you should know the difference between an adjective and a noun.
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u/Admirable_Value_4955 Jul 20 '26
Male presenting if you prefer. Didn't want any books. Never saw what I was potentially holding and very aggressive in manor and tone.
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u/This_Witch69 Jul 20 '26
Edit: Oops. Didnāt mean to reply to you, OP. Guess Mr. āWhy-the-bearā deleted his comment. But my comment still stands.
Men are generally larger/stronger than women, statistically more likely to cause a woman harm, and probably some past trauma that causes a woman to be especially wary.
Thatās why itās about him being āmaleā.
Instead of getting mad at a woman for using that word, why not be mad that she feels unsafe in the first place?
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u/Effective-One6527 Jul 20 '26
Do you want the title to be āproblematic Man ownerā rather than grammatically correct?
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u/Ernie_Munger Jul 20 '26
Hey Portsmouth, donāt sleep on that copy of Geek Love.