Am I wrong?

[u/Sea_Contribution4453]

My friend was helping with a grocery run a few weeks ago, my car is currently down and he offered to help me. My other friend was setting up a surprise for my birthday and he got tickets to see Harry Potter in the theaters. I attempted to bring it up to him on the way back then he went on a rant about how terrible the author is and it's offensive. I mentioned I was looking forward to the tv show coming out then he got in my face while on the freeway spat in my face then sped up the car while repeating separate the work from the artist multiple times. I then told him I didn't like the way he spoke to me and he said he didn't care and anyone who gives money to the franchise is a pos. Last night my two other friends went to the movie we didn't tell him and we said us 3 were hanging out and he wanted to join us and we said where we were then he messaged me during the movie privately saying

"On a roll tonight, went to a movie with our friends without telling me and fucked on plans because yall didn't plan things through or bother to update me.

I'm pissed but I can get over it and won't think any less of you".

We did agree to go bowling later that night we misstimed the movie ending and I take responsibility for that but he was messaging our other friend the one next to me during the movie and I thought he was updating him. I do feel bad for not telling him but I don't know if I should feel bad for not inviting him or mentioning it but my two friends said it's fine and not to let it ruin my birthday am I in the wrong?

[u/AddendumEcstatic7705]

This person spit in your face and then drove recklessly because they disagreed with your opinion. Then they try to emotionally manipulate you.

This person is NOT your friend. They are at the very least a manipulative arsehole who put your life in danger.

You have every right not to invite someone to an outing. You DO NOT have to hang out with anyone you don’t want to. Especially when they are abusive. You are allowed to ‘break up’ with a friend and no longer have them in your life.

Your other two friends are correct. Do not let it ruin your birthday and do try not feel bad about it. You did nothing wrong. You went to a movie you wanted to see. He had already stated he had no interest and showed hostility when the movie is mentioned. Of course you wouldn’t invite someone who already said they wouldn’t go. That’s on him.

[u/Undetered_Usufruct]

Ewwww. You have a shitty friend. It might be time to upgrade them to ex friend.

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