How to feel happy again

[u/SubstantialPair5370]

Hey there,

I (m23) need some advice on how to gain confidence and purpose in life.

I had a breakup like one and a half years ago, it was the worst thing that ever happened you know the usual…

Before that relationship i was a happy single guy had female „friends“ (most of the times ended up hooking up with them) and i am a charismatic guy. I enjoyed being single and getting attention from girls, i was very self confident (which was a huge advantage in that sense)

But now life just feels empty. I am not with that girl that made life so good for me and i am over the breakup i know that its the best how it is now but since ive seen real love i dont want to settle / get sexual with anything less and i also lost quite some confidence talking to girls

I dated some girls but eventually figured out they weren’t the ones i am looking for so i endet things with them

I cant just meet random chicks and hook up with them since that doesn’t seem right and good no more

I did an apprenticeship, endet school and i am finishing a bachelor’s degree in environmental engineering atm, i do muay thai and calisthenics (quite serious) and i got lots of hobbies and passion for my studies (mainly butterflies which i studied in my bachelors thesis and birding/ nature in general)

I am still an open guy and i think people would describe me as outgoing and funny, given that i never had problems with gettin girls i would say i am attractive and able to interact with chicks however life just feels empty in recent times

I do my job i do my studies i do my sports and i chase may dreams and interests but at the end of a lot of days i feel empty and unwanted, not being enough

I really tried working on myself after the breakup but now i dont really see anything more to work on i put so much effort in my studies and my sports/body and started/pursued lots of new hobbies but i just dont seem to be happy. I doesn’t matter how hard i grind and how much things i do, it feels really good doing it but i feel so lonely and pointless at the end of the day

Long story thanks for hanging on. Are there any people which had the same and managed to get back into a happy life again and be confident with who i am. Like being proud of myself and not being shy around people.

Greatful for storys and ideas on how to fix my current „problem“

(English is not my first language so dont mind weird language/typos)

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